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Leti,
You have these mixed feelings because you do have a conscience and you do care about others. This is a good thing, an example of what Jung thought of as an inherent spiritual aspect. For those who really want to help them self, provide assistance. Some people, too many people have pushed this spiritual aspect deep into the darkness of their souls and could care less. But it comes back on them sometime and somewhere in their lives. The law of Karma, cause and effect.

There is little if anything you can do to help the girl. She needs a trained therapist and that may not be enough unless she wants to be helped. It is so easy to let the mind do want it wants and and the body will oblige. You do not need to feel guilty about how you feel, this girl thrives on vulnerabilities, her own and others who try to help her. I would tell her straight up just before she leaves to find help. Describe to her what you feel her problems are. That is the best you can do. Until then keep your distance. If she wants real help she must be the one to seek it out. From a professional.

I had a 'friend' who did something similar. I caught on pretty quick and had he move out. He went on to 'game' the system to the max, churches, people, government agencies. And he is 60 years old, has done it more than once. My thinking is to always care. But emotions must never shadow logic. Being too emotional is what causes problems. It can blind a person to what is really there. Always trust your senses. Change the negatives when/where you can but don't let the negatives change you. Being spiritual is one thing. Being foolish and letting others take aadvantage is another

Good luck.

Jerry

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Re: Dream

Leti
I was in my grandparents' home, in the long corridor. I was walking fast, in a hurry. a man was following me, he was very close at some point he even touched me. he looked harmless, was carrying luggage I think, but I just had no time for him and felt annoyed so I speeded up the pace , went out down the staird into the garden then turned the corner and up the little path that led back to the entrance of the house. I then realize I was having another teennightmare so I could relax but somehow decided to let the dream run oni actuallan that bit as I wanted to get rid of him. I was about to enter the house by the livingroom door (which is the entrance that my uncle who NOW lives there uses, but I saw a long table full of people sitting round it. What was it? Uncle was holding a gathering, a conference a club meeting? So I went to the normal entrance door and managed to get in from there. Went into the kitchen and found 3 or 4 people there. There were trays of food, obvioulsy those people were having lunch. The food had been prepared by a catering service. Somone said that uncle could not have managed on his own for all those people, and that he'd been smart to ask for a catering service. I was hungry and said so andsaw a bread or was it cake with raisins that looked inviting, but could I eat it, those people in the kitchen, I didn't know thme, I was not free to reach out and cut a slice as I felt I wanted to do. Then I repeated I was hungry and reached out to a piece, but someone said it was made with chestnut flour. I'm allergic to chestnut flour. Ok so I just can't have any. i'll still get a piece for mother and took a little pice, then saw a smaller one and took that one, as it was smaller I fet i was not inttruding too much. There were also some spinach. I reached out to take a leaf but it was hard and raw and thick, didn't tast nasi at all, So much for the spinach stuff. There was roasted meat to but there was none witin reach. So no food. Uncle was in the meeting so I really didn't see him. end of dream.


Well, do you always keep a so clever memory of your dreams ? I find my dreams memory is pretty weak and disappear fast. I really do have to take notes before I leave the bed. How do you do that ?

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Re: Dream

Thanks so very much Jerry, how refreshing to read what you share!

I just needed to hear it all from someone else, although I now realized I had heard my own small voice saying some of what you say, like I've expressed enough compassion, now time to distance myself (without feeling guilty about it!), and also, i'm out of my depths here she needs a therapist, and also I don't feel an inch of her really wanting help, there is really is nothing I can do... and such a negative spirit in her!

I think this experience highlighted a vulnerability in me to feel guilty .... I will follow your advice and hold on for the next few weeks left... it could acutally be a good 'exercise' if difficult! for me.

Thank you for your help!

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Oh it comes with practice! About 30 years now!

Don't be put off if you only remember little bits of your dreams, write them down all the same, if you really want to listen to them. Get yourself a nice, special notebook for them, keep it on your nighttable with a pen, and see what happens.

You may find in time you also will learn to remember so many details and so much and more of your dreams.

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