Anna,
I will give an interpretation in the morning {Sunday}.

Jerry

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Anna,
I apologize for not getting to your dream yesterday. I have responsibilities this weekend that kept me tied up and not enough time to work with dreams.

The First Dream
If the guy in your dream doesn't exist as a real person then he probably exists as a masculine aspect of yourself. Showering is a cleansing of emotions. There seems to be a need for communication between the opposites {tell him when you take a shower}. That may suggest you at times are letting your emotions take over and need to be stronger {or you feel you need to be} and not give in to the emotions.
Bugs are little things that irritate. Accumulated 'bugs' can make you 'lose it' emotionally. Fingernails are sensitive parts of the hand {abilities}. Your masculine aspects {two boys could be actual reference to people also} are something that may be developing which is something you would be comfortable with. You need these masculine attributes to overcome the 'little' irritations in life. But again a lack of masculine qualities requires you to use other methods to control your emotions.

Note: let me say here there may be, and probably is, actual waking life experiences the dream is addressing. Those would be experiences only you would know about and impossible to interpret without more knowledge of your life in recent days.

This masculine quality {whether yours or actual males} knows what it is that is bothering you. It is something gross {in your mind}. There is a shift of the masculine attitude {in you?} By utilizing these aspects you would be more protected against emotional displays {the cockroach, which is a living emotional irritation causing you to gross out}. Without these masculine qualities you are still prone to the emotions. The sound of that, not able to use these qualities is something you can't get rid of.

Let me know if there is a recent experience with 'bugs' {irritable experiences} let me know what they are and perhaps I will be able to provide insights to the meaning of the dream related to that. I do believe, especially at your age, these dreams are referencing both the inner life and outer life experiences. The inner life would be about developing/utilizing stronger masculine qualities. This is something that seems to be a constant theme in your dreams which is understandable with the added responsibilities you have so early in life.

Second Dream
The house is you. The two secret floors are unknown/hidden aspects, one above the other {one perhaps stronger or more important than the other}. The old aspects may be delving deeper into the unconscious where there are 'secret places' not normally accessible to the conscious mind. Perhaps archetypal secrets, natural aspects that are available to those who are able to tap into the vast wilderness of the deep psyche. Dream interpretation, the use of intuitive abilities, is one such 'secret'. Or discoveries of the true self, which in this instance would be a balanced masculine/feminine attitude that you are developing. The black spider may be alluding the web of emotions, fears and strengths {the two opposites, the two floors, the two layers of unconscious}. The phobia of bugs may suggest a fear or a complex of something deeper, unconscious drives related to early life experiences.
The tiny snacks are 'bits of emotional nourishment'. The tiny room to hang out sounds life your dreams. I'll use a Jung quote that may be fitting:

"The dream is a little hidden door in the innermost and most secret recesses of the soul, opening into that cosmic night which was psyche long before there was any ego- consciousness, and which will remain psyche no matter how far our ego-consciousness extends."

When you dream you are accessing space that no other person can get to {your dreams}. That could be the higher floor mentioned earlier. The highest floor would be the deeper unconscious where the archetypes reside. Your mom is in a different world, a floor below the dream/unconscious world.

But there seems to be resistance to this secret world {a room or complex in your mind}. The mac and cheese are two opposites, gains and loses, something you have yet to overcome {a lack of masculine aspects over emotional fears/feminine}.

The spider could also related to your mother. Unconsciously there is a fear of nor receiving the nourishment needed in a mother/daughter relationship. That could affect your own inner mothering aspects, the archetypal mother who naturally knows how to be a mother. But if those skills are not utilized, as in with your mother who later in your childhood neglected to provide the emotional nourishment you grew to know, then it could affect you as a future mother. Again there may be archetypal forces at work here. They would be about natural mothering. In your life you have already had to become a 'mother' to your siblings which requires great strength {developing your masculine aspects}. A lack of proper mothering may be affecting the balance you should have, too much of a need to develop masculine qualities so early in life as well as having to be a 'mother' . This may be the prime theme of some of your dreams. The sudden lack of 'mothering' from your mother {especially after having received an abundance before} may be affecting the regulating aspects of the psyche. Your strong abilities to understand the dream world {understanding the Jungian approach to such a degree as you do} may indicate deep psyche abilities. With those abilities you would be able to delve deep into the unconscious psyche and gain access to things normally not available to the conscious mind.

Then there is your sisters. They have not had the proper mothering. They are having to live in a 'far off land' where monsters {fears} are a constant. You are having to be the mother, providing protection. Unconsciously you are capable but in the real waking world with all the responsibilities put upon you is harder to do so. You are naturally afraid for your sisters.

Two things to think about. The change in your mother's attitude could be more profound on your unconscious psyche than previously thought. All women have that 'instinctive mother' but when there is confusion in the waking life {as occurred with you and changes in your mother} that could create a complex. There may be the negative mother complex in play here.

Anything, so long as it is not like Mother! . . . All instinctive processes meet with unexpected difficulties; either sexuality does not function properly, or the children are unwanted, or maternal duties seem unbearable, or the demands of marital life are responded to with impatience and irritation an element of the negative mother .

The two secret rooms may be archetypal aspects of the inner mother. And having to develop strong masculine aspects so early in life can create an imbalance {to go with the mother complex}.

A lot to think about. I hope I am not overwhelming you with 'psyche' clutter. Masculine aspects and mothering seem to be the 'two' themes that are a constant in your dreams.

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