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More decapitation

I posted about 2 years ago with a decapitation dream, although it doesn't seem like that long ago, but apparently I still have some issues. I guess this is my reoccurring dream motif-- I remember having the first one when I was a teenager.

Anyway, I had one in April and another a few weeks ago.

April 18:

It was a bad one, it actually made me feel nauseous. (It was like a scene out of "Dexter.") I was walking through a house, not sure who it belonged to, I was visiting for some reason. I walked past the bathroom and saw inside a girl's decapitated head with a giant glass jar full of blood next to it. I felt like I was walking in circles around this house but was trying really hard to avoid that room, but passed it a few more times. I had the feeling that my brother was around but I never saw him. (There were more emotional things happening but I'm finding it hard to put into words.) Finally I walked through the house and came into a hospital-- it seemed like it was connected--and saw people being treated for injuries. There was blood and gore around the hospital also.

(My brother was also important in that first dream I had as a teenager, he was responsible for the decapitation. // Just writing the sentence "my brother was around but I never saw him" I realize is a pretty accurate description of our relationship in waking life. There are some issues there and it doesn't help that we live on different continents.)

May 2:

I came across a really bad car accident. It was a family of four, the kids survived, the parents were decapitated. One was lying on a stretcher -- I think it was the mother? with her head placed back on her body so you couldn't really tell what happened, just that she was dead. The other parent was obviously dead because the head was really far from the body. There were other people around, like paramedics, and they were trying to protect the children from the sight of their parents. The children were in the back seat of the car. The roof was torn off of it. I seemed to be just passing through this scene, it was along the highway which was actually quite beautiful -- green valleys and snow capped mountains, typical Bavarian scenery. I think I wanted to help but kept moving. I felt scared for the kids.

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So today I thought I might have figured out what part of this reoccurring motif means. It represents a literal disconnect from mind and body. As in, I'm attempting to cut my thoughts off so they don't trigger an emotional response, because the emotional response is too overwhelming.


Any thoughts or insights? And what do I do next?

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Re: More decapitation

Merana,
I'll give an interpretation in the morning. See if I can provide some good insights to what these dreams are about.


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Re: More decapitation

Merana,
I am going to interpret these two dreams and then in a separate post examine the Decapitated Women dream and see what associations if any I see that relates to these dreams. We had a good dialog with that dream {it received 432 views} so there is plenty of info that should provide insights to what is still occurring with these unresolved emotional issues.

April 18 Dream

Of course the house is you and walking through it probably represents an examination of your emotions. You are blaming yourself {the bad one} for some aspect of those emotions. There is also doubt involved {not sure who it belonged to}. Bathrooms are where we 'eliminate', or should eliminate or realize/confront those emotional aspects that are in conflict. Blood often symbolizes emotional energy and it is readily available for understanding what these emotions are about {glass jar are transparent}. You are avoiding the primary issues involved with this emotional conflict. As you state in your reference at the end of the dream, these issues in part involve your brother. His influence is there although he is not {physically}. The one room is the one emotional aspect you are avoiding. The hospital is a place for emotional healing and the healing that is needed is connected to you {you are the house, the room is the emotional aspect that is in conflict}. But there is a lot of emotional pain and damage {gore} associated with the ability to heal the emotional wounds.


I see the dream as a straightforward expression of an emotional conflict involving {at least partly} your brother. The one room is that emotional conflict within yourself {house}. There is a need to confront these 'mental' issues {decapitated head}. But for some reason you are avoiding doing so. Is it the immense pain and suffering involved with the experiences? Or perhaps it partly has to do with your brother living on another continent and not being able to confront him. Obviously you are aware of the experiences that caused these emotional wounds. What is it that prevents you from healing them?




May 2 Dream
I sense this dream is addressing the primary issues that have to do with your unresolved emotional conflict. The car is you and usually symbolize the direction in life we are going or have taken. Your 'car' has been in a bad accident', had a very bad emotional experience{s}.

Are there four members in your family as a child? Your parents, you and your brother?

I see two aspects {as in all dreams there is at least two applications/interpretations} to the symbols. One would have to do with a 'disconnect} with your parents {especially your mother}, 'bad' emotional experiences involving the parents. But there could also be a representation of you as a mother.
The 'other parent's head', the father, was too far away, a 'detached' parent suggesting perhaps he was not around as he should have been. Was your father away a lot or not involved in your life as he should have been?

The parent/mother lying on a stretcher was 'really dead'. Such language may suggest there was more involvement associated with your emotional issues with your mother, more so than your father. If not literally, which is more likely, then it would be the influential aspects of the mother upon your psyche. Perhaps a fear if not actual experiences of being like your mother. Like mother like daughter? Death is symbolic of an end to something in the dreamer's life and not a literal death. Perhaps, besides a need to heal wounds involving your mother as a parent, there is a need or desire not to be like her.

The paramedics are agents of healing. What they need to be protected from is the parents. I see this as a statement of the relationship with your parents. It could also be a statement about you as a parent also, inclinations or a fear of being like your parents {something in the back of your mind if not apart of your actual waking life}. The second possibility is less clear so it may be less likely. But if you have tendencies to be like your mother, then it would fit.

Another possibility to the car wreck
Let me interject there is the possibility the other aspect, even another aspect, of the symbols is a true experience of seeing the parents in the conditions of a real car wreck. If that is tue it would be something you would likely remember, unless you were too young to consciously do so. It that case the experience would be an unconscious memory being revised in adulthood. Perhaps when I look at the Decapitated Women dream I will see possible associations if any.
Also Note: The name of your previous dream is Decapitated Women. Perhaps that is an unconscious pronouncement of influences/associations between you and your mother. Women is plural.

Continuing the interpretation
What needs to be protected is the children. This is likely a statement of you {and your siblings} as children, and possibly a reference in some form to your own children. But I believe the emphasis would be on you as a child. The healing process needed is from your childhood experiences, probably to do with your parents {and possibly influences of your mother on your psyche-are there commonalities you share with your mother?}.

The roof being torn off probably represents a conscious realization of unconscious emotional barriers /conflicts. Again the car is you and the decapitated head is your mental state of being. The roof of the car would be the opening of the 'head', the mental self to understanding all that is neede to know about the emotional conflicts being addressed in your dreams. There are still a lot of unconscious aspects {the back of the car could also represent 'in the back of the mind'} that remain unresolved.

The last part of the dream, the climax of the emotional conflict the dream is trying to convey, suggests you are perhaps in denial of some aspect associated with the experiences we are speaking about. Everything is beautiful, except it is not. You pretend it is just be 'keep moving on' without confronting the real issues. A disconnect in more ways than one. And it is the kids who are/were are risk. Could that be a reference to just you as a child, or possibly other children as well? You know the answer to that.


Final Analysis
We know there is an emotional conflict you do not want to think about. There are several questions that need to be answered. One is where and how does your brother play into the events? Second, are the events about an issue with your parents in general {them as good parents} or one issue in particular that was 'swept' under the rug and not properly addressed {by your parents when you were a child as well as being addressed now}. Even the best interpreter of a dream can only see so much. The personal stuff, the actual experiences can only be discerned by the dreamer. By connecting the dots I have laid out, you should begin to see the recurring motifs, or themes, in the dreams that are reflective of the unresolved emotional conflicts in your life. The motifs the dream is wishing to convey so there can be a healing.




In Conclusion
Yes, you are correct, here is a recurring motif to dreams. Likely more than one. But you are correct in believing there is an attempt to cut my thoughts off so they don't trigger an emotional response, because the emotional response is too overwhelming. The emotions involved with the experiences are very strong. Not thinking about those things prevents you from having a emotional response to them. But it also prevents you from the healing process that needs to take place. As long as you deny your thoughts about the experiences the longer you will have these dreams. The 'nurse' is that healing process but it is also the dream. Dreams are therapeutic in they attempt to reveal the unresolved emotional conflicts so there can be a healing process. Without that you will continue not only having the dreams but you let the unconscious influences continue to survive, and perhaps be a control mechanism in your life. Running away doesn't solve the problem, it only pushes it deeper into the unconscious where it can become even more destructive.

I'll take a look a the Decapitated Women dream and see what I can see that will provide more insights to these dreams. In the meantime, if you will provide a response to my interpretation it will be helpful in determining what other possibilities there are about the dream.



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Re: More decapitation

Merana,
After looking back at your Decapitated Women dream and the dialog with it I came away with the feeling these two dreams are advancing some deeper emotions that probably are a result of your disconnect with your conditions in Germany. I sense the dreams are addressing underlying unconscious aspects from childhood that have been put away {something you don't want to think about}. The relationship with your brother would be at the center of these emotional aspects. A statement from the original dream two years ago may provide insights to why these dreams have evolved.

Another layer of meaning to the women in the dream might be my feelings about women who are persecuted in male-dominated, theocratic countries, which brings up a whole host of new topics, but actually answers another question I had been asking myself about what causes I wanted to work for, what kinds of issues are really important to me, etc.

Women who are persecuted in a male dominated theocratic country gives me pause to believe that perhaps these feelings have a lot to do with your early life experiences that involved not only your brother but possibly your parents. If you can provide a response to the possibilities I mentioned in my interpretation of these two dreams perhaps we can tie some loose ends. I know there may be personal issues you may not want to post but if you can confirm what fits that may help me better understand the purpose of the dreams.

Dream Series
A word about interpreting dreams. The interpretation of one dream seldom resolves the emotional issues the dream is wishing to convey. It is from the interpreting a series of dreams that fully gets to the root of unconscious reasons for the dreams. Dreams reveal issues that have not been fully resolved. But since dreams are dealing with more than a single emotional issue, as well as the underlying foundations to the personal traits that lead to certain emotional issues, it is only through examining a whole series of dreams that the full story evolves. Your dream from two years ago on the surface seemed to be focused on the changes in your life at the time of the dream. Your personality has developed certain modes of thought and behavior and the feelings in the first dream are partially a result of those traits {persecution in male-dominated country}. The underlying motivations for the cause you hold dearly in your life have an under pinning, reasons for the motivations. Inevitably those motivations start early in life, from early life experiences. While the original dream was focusing on your current emotional situation, underneath there was the underlying causations and motivations being addressed also. Those underlying reasoning come to a point in later dreams, just as they have in these last two dreams. If you look back at your early life experiences involving your brother and parents you will probably see why you have strong feelings about male domination {unfortunately in our patriarchal world it is a standard}. But these last dreams are also focused on the early life experiences/influences in an attempt to get you to 'look' that them. Until you confront those issues the 'negative' unconscious influences will remain. You will continue to ignore what is there and that will only make it worst later in life. There will come a time when {mid-life is the usual time frame}, if not resolved before hand, those past experiences will come to surface with a roar. By examining your past you will see your present, the experiences early in life being the determiner of who you become. By knowing who you really are you can change the negatives and build on the positives. This is what we refer to in Jungian circles as the inward journey.

The Deeper Stuff
You have studied Jungian psyche and probably know much of what I am speaking of. It seems it may be the thing that needs to be done is to find the discipline to confront what it is you do not want to think about. I can attest from personal experience as well as with working with others that there will be a change in your life that can open life to greater possibilities when you finally confront the inner demons. It is a matter of giving in and thinking about those things you do not want to think about. One step at a time, moving forward with what you learn, confronting the issues and removing the barriers. A whole new dimension in life awaits those who dare travel the hero path. This gets into the Joseph Campbell stuff and it is knowledge that few ever discover.
Are you prepared to be the heroine in your own life?
You do have a cause {male domination of women}. Once you become the heroine in your own life you may be called to be the instrument for others in the same position.
What Joseph Campbell called true meaning in life. A purpose so close to your heart where you share your experiences so others will learn from them.


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Re: More decapitation

It's a lot to process-- a lot of great insights to think about.

So for the first dream and my relationship with my brother, it's kind of long and boring but lately I've just stopped contacting him. We used to be pretty close but I feel like if he doesn't need me for advice or as a pseudo-therapist he doesn't talk to me. Just recently I've been frustrated with him overall, and kind of disappointed about other things he's doing (or not doing). I don't think he realizes it since we're so far away and all. It's kind of hard to keep in touch with people when I'm so far away, so I realize as I'm writing and criticizing my brother that I'm kind of doing the same thing to my friends. I don't write them out of the blue to complain though, I just don't write as often as I should.

I've written a lot tonight about all these dreams but I'm not sure it's relevant to post. It's been pretty cathartic anyway.
There's a lot of background info for the second dream, so I'll have to wait until this weekend to post. In the meantime, I will try to absorb all this. My brain needs to reboot now.


Thank you Jerry for all the time and effort you put into these analyses!!!

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Merana,
It sounds as if there are issues with your brother. I suggest you look back at your childhoods and see what experiences/influences would have caused this. I do believe this is part of the deeper aspects of the last two dreams. The Decapitated Women dream touched on this also although a primary focus were issues associated with the move to Germany. Take your rime and assessing what i presented. 'Thinking about it' is a primary goal of any dream interpretation. These things are often stored away in the unconscious only to be made conscious when thought is given to it.

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Re: More decapitation

I'm still trying to figure out the patriarchal aspect. If there are a few ways to interpret it, then on one level it could be an association I have with a specific patriarchal culture (which I'm trying to figure out), and on a more personal level in my family there isn't a strong living patriarchy, so maybe it came up because it's so obviously lacking? If there was a patriarch it would be my brother and he is struggling with that. The important men in my life died too young. Maybe that's how my brother ties in?

I feel like there could be more significance to the specific patriarchal culture that was in my dream... but my memory is vague. I went to a dream retreat a few years ago and some of the participants had really interesting associations with specific cultures. One person had a dream with Ethiopian coins, which represented starvation/famine, and another had a dream about a Chinese army, which I think had something to do with an overwhelming amount of people. In my dream it was middle eastern religious extremists.

All in all, I think your interpretations made a lot of sense. I'm just wondering how much personal history to post here, and how much is relevant to the dreams.

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Merana,
I'll provide a more detailed response later today. To address a couple of your questions, the patriarchy issue is a cultural issue and has been since man decided he is the boss. That doesn't become a problem unless man decides he needs to denigrate the feminine. When i say feminine I not only speak of cultural but also psyche issues. The real problem is man is afraid of the feminine aspect of the psyche and that is apparent in out religious systems. For man to say woman is equal would lessen the power structure of Western cultures {and most Eastern}. God is male. The problem with that is Jesus lived from the feminine aspect {caring, loving, giving, compassion, etc}. Which is correct. If Jesus is God, as we are instructed to believe from scripture, then there is a clash somewhere in that idea. i tend to look to the mystics for the answer to that question. An example would be the Christian sect of Gnosticism. These scriptures are as old as the New Testament but have not been alter as has the bible. They show that the true ground of our being is from the feminine, Jesus directing us to look inward and not outward for God. They are pure Buddhism. This is the reason these books were not included in the bible. They refute patriarchy.

As for how much personal history to provide. Generalities would be best and not in-depth details. No one knows who you are so there is little possibility of personal issues being disseminated. If there was abuse or an experience that left a great emotional impression, then providing who it was from or what happened without naming names would suffice. A parent or relative, or a trusted friend would be enough. The age when it happened or the time frame would be important. What I look for in dreams are emotional patterns. I then try to put in words what i see that will help the dreamer connect it to real life events. It is nearly impossible to say exactly what the emotional experience was but i often can provide clues to what they may be so the dreamer recognizes the associations. I have found Jung's theories on the dream to be pretty much reliable. With a little intuitive sensing {a feminine aspect being put to use} usually I can provide a good picture of what the dream is trying to communicate. Of course the dreamer has to have an ability, and desire, to put the pieces together. Fortunately that isn't a big problem since most who post at the Dream Forum are already searching for answers and are aware something 'within' is stirring. We all have emotional conflicts that need to be addressed. Taking time to do so is what is important. If it is left unattended it will only get worse and eventually take form in something more sinister in the waking life {projecting the emotional conflict onto someone else is often the case}.

If you wish to go 'deeper' into the patriarchal issues feel free to share what you feel comfortable with. As I stated in my last post it is a series of dreams and a discussion with the dreamer that ultimately brings about what the dream message is. That is where the healing process begins. That is what I hope to do in providing interpretations, help heal the wounds. Having worked with my own issues and having resolved those I know the power of dreams and the power of dreams in helping in the healing process.


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Merana,
I took another look at your dreams and I believe more info about your early life may help us understand them. What was the relationship with family like? Is there anything that occurred in your ten years that the dream is trying to expose, something you do not want to think about? I get a sense the first dream is addressing that aspect, something within the unconscious that needs to be made conscious. There looks to be a lot of emotional pain involved. If you can provide more information about these things perhaps the intended message of the dream will reveal itself.


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It's late here so I will post some more background info tomorrow.

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So this is some background info that might help explain the May 2 car accident dream.

The events with my parents-- I realized when I was writing it all out again that it did relate to my parents. In the dream the mother's head was put back on and it seemed like it was an attempt to make her look alive and the father's was way far away and obviously dead. So in real life, my father died when I was 11 (not a car accident) and my mom had to kind of pretend to be ok, but she did seem ok actually, she was really strong throughout the process.

There might be a lot more details there that relate to my dad and his actual death, which is something I still think about. Consciously I feel like I've dealt with it, understand it, etc. which is why maybe I'm just an observer in this dream? Between age 11-16 I tried to cope pretty much on my own with my father's death--that was one area my mom didn't really know how to deal with. Then around age 16-17 I started seeing a counselor and was diagnosed with depression. Around that time I had very dark, sometimes disturbing dreams, including the first decapitation one. And when I say dark I mean literally, it was like I was walking around in the dark in all of my dreams and I thought that was normal.
Anyway, my brother and I were also the only ones there when he died-- my mom was out for the afternoon. He had a massive heart attack. My brother was the one who called the ambulance. Our neighbor came over and had us stay at her house when the ambulance showed up. (I think she didn't want us to see what the paramedics would have to do to him, to protect us. So, similar to the dream.) But that was the last time we saw him alive and it was really scary and confusing. Now when I think about it and wish I could go back and tell him I love him or comfort him. I was standing there frozen watching him take what were probably his last breaths.

I remember thinking all day, after they took him to the hospital, that he was going to be ok. Maybe he was just really sick. When we finally got to the hospital, I expected to see him but he wasn't there. I thought the doctor would take us to see him. I prepared myself to see him in a hospital bed with tubes and stuff all over, but we just waited and then he finally told us what happened, and that was kind of the end of my normal childhood.

Maybe wishing for impossible things is preventing me from moving on? I was really close with him so that makes it hard. For a very long time I felt like my dad was the only one who really knew me and understood me, and he was gone. And going back to the patriarchal thing (and wishing for impossible things), I sometimes wish I could have met my grandfather. I think about him a lot since I'm in Germany and he died in Europe (probably France) in WWII.

I didn't really think this dream would be about all that old stuff, I guess because I thought I moved on, but how could it not be about that? It just seems obvious.

Also I should mention that around the time of both of these dreams I was talking to my mom and she was worried about my brother--he's having some issues getting his life together, getting a job, and is under a lot of stress, etc. I felt like part of that first dream relating to my brother had something to do with my stubbornness in not wanting to reach out to him and keep in touch. I feel like that if I continue being stubborn, despite the fact that I know he probably needs some emotional support, then our relationship will suffer. I just worry about what is going to happen to him.

The other thing I was wondering about was why am I having such violent & dramatic imagery in my dreams when my waking life is pretty peaceful? The only really bad thing that's happened to me is my father dying, I haven't had any first-hand experience with blood and gore like in these dreams.

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Merana,
I'll give a detailed response later today. I do appreciate your willing to share your experiences since all dreams are learning tools. Not only for the dreamer but all of us.
Jerry

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Merana,
First let me say again how much I appreciate your taking the time to respond and your willingness to share your experiences. The responses to my interpretations helps me understand how dreams do function as well as provide added information I did not have in the beginning that helps with better understanding of the dream. Over the years the continued conversations with dreams about the interpretation has help me in interpreting dreams as well as provide a real appreciation of Jung's theories and concepts about dreams and the unconscious psyche. I feel very comfortable in stating that using Jung and armed with enough knowledge about the dreamer most any dream can be interpreted. A good interpretation can help the dreamer focused on those emotional issues that are central to the good mental health of the dreamer. It is only a beginning for the dreamer but I have many who takes the time and makes the effort to further investigate their own psychology which in turn leads to a better understanding of the unconscious and conscious forces in their lives. Not knowing only adds to future psychological anguish. I believe in the future the interpretation of dreams will be a standard for most psychologists and clinical therapists since downs are a direct link to the unconscious. Delving into those vast regions of the deep psyche is how we learn the most about ourselves and the more we know the better we are able to heal the emotional wounds {we all have something} and discover greater paths to personal growth.


First Dream
The first dream seems to be at least partly focused on the experience you had with your brother when your father had his heart attack. Both of you were there when it happened thus a shared experience. The fact he now lives far away from you and your relationship is distant is at the same time addressed with the dream comment"I had the feeling that my brother was around but I never saw him". The room you were trying to avoid has to do with masculine aspects {your brother and father}and you have confused emotions about those experiences/relationships {I felt like I was walking in circles around this house}. The injuries you see in the dream are primarily your emotional injuries that need healing {hospital, as well as the hospital being an experience}. The decapitated head is yours, as is the jar full of blood {emotion energy}. Decapitation would symbolize not seeing clearly {emotionally}. It may also suggests you need to put your 'head' back on and confront the issues causing the emotional conflicts. When your dad died you lost the one person you felt knew best. And although that was long ago and you thought it was resolved there are still issues. That may be because of current life experiences, one of not feeling understood and two the issues having to do with masculine control. I would need to know your full life to analyze that in a proper way but they are probably linked to those teenage years when you lost your dad.

There is a statement you made with the first dream that probably needs more investigation, if in fact it is something you felt in the dream. The statement is, "My brother was also important in that first dream I had as a teenager, he was responsible for the decapitation". Is it due to the accurate description with him now as you stated? Or are there any other reasons you would feel him responsible for your 'decapitation'? This first dream seems to be focused on masculine issues, your relationship and experiences with your father and brother. It could addressing your own masculine aspects {animus} which may be a factor in your waking life as it is living in Germany and the patriarchal issues.

The fact this was a 'bad dream' suggests there are still issues to be worked out involving what we have discussed. You are at that age {beginning of mid-life} where unresolved emotional issues begin to re-introduce themselves. In the first stages of life we are so consumed with ego building issues, family/career, etc, that the underlying emotional building blocks that make us who we are are not thought of. Early experiences/influences have a broad baring on who we become and often unconsciously motivate that person. it is not until we get to mid-life that these things begin to show themselves. The unconscious forces have been there all along often affecting how we live life without us knowing it. I know that is true in my life and have seen many experiences with others where it is true also. It only makes sense since we do now know that in the early years of life we take in stimuli that is placed into the unconscious and stored. And if you wish to take it even further, the influences within the psyche, Jung's concepts of the archetypes as innate forces also play into the schemes of who we are.

Second Dream
First a word about the language of dreams.
The car accident is symbolic language representing you and your emotions. The car is you. Dreams speak primarily in a language of symbol and metaphor. the symbol of the car/you in an accident is a metaphor for an emotional experience/accident in your life. Understanding this concept of the dream language has revolutionized our understanding of dreams. If you surf the web and look at all the dream sites that offer info on dreams they all pretty much hold to this concept. Not all give credit to Jung {as they should-most do} but it is the symbolic language in dreams you find that define how they look at dreams. This is why I feel we can competently interpret dreams, knowing the language and using Jungian concepts. Jung's theories go way beyond the language of dreams with his theory of the archetypes proving the real glue that puts it all together. This is the unconscious speaking to us through our dreams. The reason is to inform us of what it is in our lives that is emotional troubling as well as those things that keep us from being emotionally whole. There is a balance to be reached where life is happy and harmonious. Few people get there because they live emotionally instead of objectively. The emotions are in control, not the true person nature meant us to be.

Dream
The first dream seemed to focus on the masculine. This dream seems to be focused on the feminine.

The car is you and the accident is an emotional accident. And it is a bad one. That suggest something deeper, an emotional conflict that you probably have yet to fully realize. The family of four would be your real family when you were a child. Four is also the number for wholeness in Jungian psyche {a recurring number often seen in dreams}. The kids survival and not the parents is suggestive of an issue to do with parents and/or parenting. We know your father died when you were a teenager. But your mother lived and was strong, on the outside. Internally it was a different story {which would be an objective suggestion}. It could be the mother not surviving is addressing you as the mother, possibly to do with outer and inner strengths. The decapitation would be the 'cut off' emotions to do with experiences with both.

Another concept about dreams that I believe to be wholly true is your dreams are about you and your emotions. If there is a 'generic' representation of a mother there are usually issues involving the mother but she, the mother, would also represent the dreamer. It is you who is on the stretcher. all that is happening within the dream applies to you {and could be addressing a true experience but not always}. It is metaphorical of your emotional being, not your mother's. It is your dream.

Death in a dream seldom symbolizes a real death. It represents something that has come to an end. A disconnect of the emotional self from the body of objective reality {body}. That's the metaphorical language of the dream describing some aspect of you, your personality and/or your life. But what are the reasons for this disconnect?

The dream may be suggestion the root is from your childhood {teen years}. Those issues we have discussed being a part of that. Passing through the scene would be a remembrance, albeit an unconscious memory. The early life experiences are controlling your life {if the car is you, and you are in the back seat, then whatever is in the front seat driving the car is unconsciously driving you}. In your waking life as it is today everything seems beautiful {Bavarian landscape would be a clue to the Germany residence you now live}. You want to help yourself, to d with these issues, but you are busy with conscious life. There is still that scared kid within, or scared kids since your deepest 'shock' experiences to do with your father also involved your brother.

There may also be elements addressing your children. Like mother like daughter and any emotional stimuli from those experiences are locked within you. You may be afraid of some trait your shared with your mother that would affect your children. It may be a fear that they too could experience an emotional decapitation in their lives. Are there experiences in your current life that could affect them in a way you fear would be negative? Being an army wife is a hard life. What type father is your husband? Are there issues with patriarchy that you feel could be a problem? Look deeper into that and determine if there are issues or if it is simply metaphorical of your life as a child and teen.

Summary
Because both dreams were 'bad' and plus the language within the dreams I sense something is coming to a 'head'. Issues that you had not given thought to before {your focus being on current life and experiences}. There does seem to be something deeper involved, something current that is now bringing back these memories. You are still very young to have these emotional issues how up {usually they come in the 40s}. Something current may be causing past issues to resurface now. If you have any ideas in your current life that you feel relative that may help in discovering those issues. Perhaps some additional info on your daily life as well as the relationship with your husband and the life of an army wife in Germany will help. Again, whatever you feel comfortable with providing. In the meantime give thought to what we have discussed and see where that leads. Often just thinking about it will bring back new memories or ideas. The important stuff is stored away, waiting to be relived in our dreams. When that happens it is usually due to either s current stimulus in the waking life or the natural order of things at mid-life is taking place [especially in the 40s and 50s}. Take your time and respond when you feel ready to.


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Re: More decapitation / possibly resolved this recurring dream

Hi Jerry,
I was thinking about these dream analyses today and thought I would post an update.
I was looking back on my journal from around this time and realized what was going on. I was having major conflicts at the time between my head and my heart-- to use some cliched words--with my relationship with my husband. It seemed to be that my heart/gut wanted to speak up about something that didn't seem right, and my head/ego wanted to keep quiet and go with the flow. I would tell myself that nothing was going on and i had nothing to worry about, but still my gut did not agree. It wasn't until I talked to some of our mutual friends recently that I realized that I was suppressing these emotions at the expense of preserving my ego to maintain a facade of being "cool." And when I finally talked to my husband about the issues, it seemed to resolve that feeling that my head and heart were at odds, and it was a relief. But it was also really scary, because once I said these things it could have changed our relationship forever, for the worse. In the past, that risk would have been too much for me to take and I might have just ignored it and suffered silently. I was willing to take the risk though because my marriage was worth it to me, even if there was a possibility that I was accelerating the ending of it.

Somehow it just clicked that this was part of why I was having those dreams. I'm still working on these issues, I mean, they're not totally gone, but at least I have an idea of how to deal with them now.

You were right to question what was going on with my relationship w/ my husband and life overseas, because that definitely played a part. I guess at the time I didn't have the perspective to see what was going on. So sometimes these dreams take years to resolve.

Anyway, I'm really thankful that you have this site.

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