Sally,
I'll provide a more detailed response in the morning, as well as go back over the dream and determine how your brother-in-law figures into the symbolism. Of course not knowing before hand about your b-i-l excludes any possibility of my knowing the personal issues involving him. One change i am making in working locally in my dream work is obtaining this personal information so to better provide a more detailed and accurate interpretation. But it is amazing what can be gained from a dream in its interpretation just by knowing only the age and gender of the dreamer {as I do with my interpretations at the dream Forum}. Jung's dream theories seem to be more applicable than i could have ever imagined. Without them I don't believe we could ever truly understand the nature, let along the symbolic language, in dreams. Dreams are no longer the great mystery they once were.


Jerry

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Sally,
There is nothing in the dream that illuminates the arrival of your brother in law but the strong reaction you had after the near accident may have been due to his sudden appearance. The abuse you mentioned in your childhood was life changing and the near accident brought home the fears of your past and how quickly life can take a turn away from normalcy.

The emphasis of the dream does seem to be prophetic. If indeed there is a prophetic aspect it would be due to your sensory abilities of intuitiveness as well as past experiences with child abusers. Dreams don't normally predict the future, they compensate what you already know, or sense. Perhaps your understanding of how someone can seem so harmless yet be so vile and corrupt had an influence in the dream. That would come from experience as well a sensory feelings. Your husband lacks this experience. Your thoughts in the dream, thoughts that have turned out to be true, were more about the relationship between you and your husband. The appearance of your b-i-l could have been an unnamed factor for the dream, the impending changes it could cause. Looking at the dream from that angle we can surmise this scenario.

In the dream your husband is driving the car. In waking life he is in charge. You are not sure where you are going may have to do with where the relationship will go with the sudden appearance of your b-i-l. Intuitively you may have sensed something, the change in direction it might cause. From experience you knew the negatives in being around someone who can manipulate other people. Until he {b-i-l} arrived you knew where the relationship stood. Afterwards you sensed a change.

Intuitive feelings are ALWAYS correct. I live by that FACT. Without a strong intuitive sense {a feminine aspect within the psyche} I could not understand dreams as I do.

The hill would be the struggle you sense you must climb, sensing what could lay ahead of you {unconsciously in front of the car but not consciously visible-yet}. You get to the top of the hill but there is 'no other side'. Your own experiences with abuse help you understand there is no other side to having to endure the experience of abuse. It is all negative. The coming of your b-i-l stimulates these feelings. You are on one side as the victim, your b-i-l the other side where there is no defense for his actions {of abuse}. But this is something your husband has no real experience with.

Plunging off the cliff would be sensory feeling of what could happen, and in many ways is {your husband's attention to your b-i-l}. In the beginning this is merely a fear. But sensory projections tell you it is a 'killer' to your relationship with your husband. The impact of those sensory feelings is now occurring. There is nothing you can do but be silent. You love your husband too much to say anything, sensing it would be the real killer of the relationship if you speak out.

The inability to control your emotions after the near accident with the truck was likely due to returning memories of your abuse which was precipitated by the appearance of your b-i-l. You are consciously aware of how abusers take advantage and his coming not only stroked past memories of your experiences but also the manipulative abilities of the abusers. His manipulative abilities over your husband have come true and it is affecting your relationship.

The question becomes, what to do? Speaking out may make it worse {you may know this or at least sense it}. Have you had any recent dreams that may offer solutions? The deep psyche has abilities to recognize solutions beyond that of the conscious mind. Perhaps the dream can offer solutions.

You state your husband is totally neglecting your home and instead putting his energies into the old house. There is probably a bond between him and his brother {which would be normal} but one so strong as to have him neglect you and the home you share with him may point to deeper issues involving the two of them. Could there have been shared experiences in their childhood that would create such a bond? Usually the abuser was once the abusee. If your b-i-l was in fact abused as a child could your husband have similar experiences or knowledge of his brother's abuse? This could create a bond beyond the norm and be a reason for your husband's attention to his brother. Not all people who were abused become abusers {you are an example}. Likely there is a deeper reason for all the attention your husband is giving to his brother. That of course has changed his relationship with you.

There will come a time when things will come to a head. Either that or you keep quiet and endure the loss of your husband and hope something brings him back to you. But that would be almost the same as being abused and not speaking out. Perhaps professional advise is warranted. I am not a trained psychologist so my abilities are limited. And of course you could chance saying something to your abuse about how you feel neglected. Your sensory feelings will have to guide you there. I suggest you seek advise from a trained professional. Insights come from experience and a trained psychologist could offer insights to what may be the thing that saves your marriage.

Until them I am available for any help I can offer. If you have had any dreams you feel relevant you can post them and we can see what they have to say. Let's hope things will change back to where they were before the appearance of your b-i-l. Karma is a strong force in life so continue to stay as positive as you can. Perhaps the negatives will catch up to your b-i-l and force him out of your lives.


Jerry

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