Luke,
Thanks for your response. The additional info about your sister answers a lot of questions I had. Your sister's forceful attitude is likely the reason for the inclusion of 'sister's room'. Those aggressive characteristics atre what you need so you can confidently approach women. It is from your sister's room {metaphorically speaking} you are able to 'open up' and have an 'amicable' conversation with the opposite sex.

But that also applies to the 'inner feminine' I addressed in my analysis. There needs to be a 'forceful' inner conversation with your anima also. I find it striking that your sister {the perceived inferior sex} has a strong personality and yours is the weaker one. This is what really needs to be exposed {finding her totally naked} to understand if you want to know the reason for your shyness. Why do you have a fear of what women will think of you? There are always an underlying causation for such fears. The same would hold true for your sister's 'aggressive personality'. I suggest you look at the relationship with parents and determine what could be in those with both you and your sister. It could have more to do with genetic makeup or other factors but often it comes from childhood experiences and influences. Was one of you {you and your sister} treated different by one or both parents? Is there something in your past {especially early life} that makes you afraid to take risks? Understanding the underlying reasons for your shyness may help you overcome it. That is what your dreams {their 'natural' therapeutic} are trying to do, help you overcome the fears so you can gain strength to approach women. Wholeness is also a function of dreams, nature's original intent.

Your thoughts on my response would be appreciated.

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Jerry,

Thank you very much for your comments which has proved very helpful.

I would agree with your statements. My sister was looked after and cared for more than me when I was younger, I was unjustifiably left out by some of my family members for no reason at all which left some resentment. However, I've learnt to move forward.

I've never had much problems with women, however, their were 1-2 arrogant women who did not like my 'laid back' quiet personality in my late teens, I guess this may be a another problem.

The reason why I'm scared is because I guess I want to be liked and loved by people and afraid of change, in the sense I want stability. Also, I've had to put up with arrogant behavior of others.

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Luke,
Thanks for the response. I sensed there may have been early life issues where your sister received more 'emotional nourishment' than you. Her strong willed nature probably comes from the attention she received and re-inforcement of a strong attitude by parents. On the other hand your 'nourishment' was neglected and being on the lower rung that re-inforced your personality in later life. Your current need to be liked and loved is a product of not receiving that nourishment as a child. Perhaps a good way to turn that around is to surround yourself with like minded people and use each other as strength. Look for groups in or near your location. Reshaping ones psyche is difficult since early life influences are cemented in the brain and are hard to change. But it can be done. Focus on your positives and build on those as you work to dismantle the negatives. Discipline is the key word in both instances.

Good luck. If you have future dreams you feel relevant to your progress post them for an analyzation.

Jerry

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