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Hotel Deviousness

In my dream I am in my 20's, wand thin, and have long blonde hair. (In waking, I am thin but not as thin as in the dream and I have brown hair - just to show the contrast). I am wearing jean shorts, a grey tank top and a red jacket (it's a vibrant color and lovely and one I don't wear much of in waking) of some sort. I remember wearing ankle boots as well. I am with my mom (who is not really my mom in waking life) but in my dream I know she is my mom and she owns a hotel. I get an impression that she is a single mom.

I remember being excited to see this guy. Right away in my dream I recognize him as being someone from my past in waking. It's weird because from behind I know it is him and instantly recognize him, but when he turns around he is really, really ugly (I was thinking that this could be my projecting how much of an ugly person he was when I knew him in waking - because in reality, he was quite attractive). He shows up and is wearing jeans and a grey tshirt. The colors on him are are faded/washed out. He's a smooth talker and a trouble maker (which he was in waking, too). In my dream, my mother didn't like him or trust him and I knew it but didn't care. In my dream I also remember knowing that he was there to meet me to have sex.

My mother starts grilling him, we are seated on a couch and she demands to see his driver license (?) and he presented a folded up piece of paper and presents it to her, opened up. It's odd, he doesn't show her his actual license, he's not even carrying an actual license or a wallet for that matter, just a photocopy. Again, in the dream I recognize it, but I don't care even though I register it as being strange.

My mother tells him she doesn't want us to see one another and we (I guess) must make her believe that we won't, but he has a smug smile on his face the whole time. So we leave as if I am going to walk him out and say goodbye but instead we walk towards a different end of the hotel my mom owns. (I think maybe it is a family business?) we head towards the left. The building actually looks like my elementary/middle school. It has a larger entrance (lobby) and then the building fans to the left and to the right with the hotel rooms. The building is a khaki color, too. So we are walking and holding hands and we are going to sneak into room "24". He and I are a bit nervous at being caught and yet we aren't. Apparently, we have done this before without repercussions and he knows how to get in. I want to say he even has a key. We just have to be sure the room isn't occupied. This time I know he hasn't been around for quite some time and I am more excited than concerned about getting caught.

I remember knowing that we made it into the room and that we were together. (without the dream showing me, it was implied) - because then suddenly I am sitting across a table from a heavy set man who looks to be in his 40's and another man who was supposed to maybe be my brother or a family friend? He was somewhere between the ages of 18-22. Again, I see the colors on them as being like this faded/washed out blue and grey. My "dad" is wearing a baseball cap. We are in maybe some sort of a cafe or diner. It's one of those formica tables with the silver outline to it. (with the grooves on the side). The table is white. There is no food or drink on the table, but there is some sort of round plate in the center of it. I am sitting alone on one side and the other two men are on the other.

He is telling me that he doesn't trust the guy, if we are going to be doing things like sneaking around, it's not good, this guy should be my boyfriend.

I am then "outside" of this person who is supposed to be me in this dream (and yet isn't) and I know I am 23. (?) I see this guy again from my past and know he wants to nuzzle my neck or something and that he does want to be with me but that he doesn't know how because apparently he is with someone else? I remember thinking that somehow we would be together. I remember that I am watching myself and also watching his thoughts in my dream.

I haven't dreamt in this much detail in awhile and thought it was worth posting.

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Re: Hotel Deviousness

Jackie,
Give me a couple of days to get to your dream. A very busy end of the week and a busy Saturday schedule. I always want to have plenty of time to give my best in an analysis and with so much on the social side it is not possible to allow the mind to focus on the inner qualities that best help me when working with dreams.

Jerry

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Re: Hotel Deviousness

Jackie,
I am going to give an analysis of your dream and then give more thought in a day or so and see if I can come up with something more different. I have a lot going on and my intuitive mind is not functioning as well as it should. The dream is quite detailed and not easy to decipher. Here is a preliminary analysis, subject to change.

My sense is you are trying to reconcile some emotional conflict from your past {in your 20s may be a clue}. The contrast in hair may suggest something you did that wasn't smartest thing {blond}. Also the mother symbol may suggest a wiser 'you' {you are the mother of yourself}. The single mom may be a clue also.

The second paragraph again alludes to your past and possible past mistakes, an ugly time in your life. Your 'mom' questioning him may refer to current decisions that are before you and may be the reason for the dream {being in a position where correct decision making is important}. The guy may refer to actual waking life experiences but also your own inner masculine self, questioning yourself from a wiser position {mother}. The sex is bringing together of something, a resolution of physical and mental aspects.

The driver's license is a instrument that is given by authority. The grilling may be questioning by what authority this emotional aspect has in governing your actions {in the present time}. The photocopy may again be saying something about 'copying' decisions from past actions. You may trust yourself {again, the guy is apart of your masculine self} in some aspect of decision making that you are now having to make. The folded paper could be alluding to something folded from your past {decisions}, a time you didn't care as much to the consequences.

Your wiser self {mother} is telling you not do to one thing but you know you would be fooling yourself by thinking that it as easy {not to}. You know you are capable of doing just the opposite, even though you are older and wiser. Or it may be you will not do it but want to {giving in to a temptation that when you were younger you would have jumped on}. The left direction is one of adventure, not obeying the rules {something a younger person would do}. There is a learning aspect in all of this {elementary/middle school}. The room number 24 would equal six which may suggest a need or desire for physical wholeness {are you in a relationship? If not are you wanting one?}.
You have done this before, but you do not want to have repercussions {as there were in the past}. Being older you may be trying to convince yourself you have the key to avoiding this {strength of your masculine self}. 'This time' will be different, you are more excited than concerned, perhaps ignoring the past since it has been awhile since you were in this position.

The older male figure may have present day waking associations, perhaps reminding you of your father. There are 'faded' memories involved. I see the male of 40 and the brother figure of 18-22 {equals 40} as a statement about wholeness {in Jungian psyche the number represents wholeness}. The round plate would suggest wholeness as would the table. The table may represent social unity, as in a relationship. But there are two males {opposites} sitting across the table from you. This may represent conflict in making decisions.

There is a question of trusting yourself, not doing what isn't good for you emotionally, possibly about relationships.

On the 'outside' you are 23 again, faced with a decision. You are faced with the past which again wants to 'nuzzle'. But you are sure because you are with someone else {perhaps another relationship, or may represent a wiser you}.

Does this fit somewhere in your life? Are you engaged in decisions about a relationship or relationships? It is very detailed dream and often that makes it more difficult because there is a temptation to interpret too much of the dream in detail and overlook the primary message. In my analysis I look for a flow of patterns. The pattern in this dream may be about decisions of the past and the present.

Jerry

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Re: Hotel Deviousness

Hi Jerry

I didn't want to rush writing back to you on this so that I could digest it a little. Here is what I want to ask (what I am thinking the connection may be). I am currently out of work - I lost my job last year and have not been able to find work (or work find me for that matter). Very recently (just days prior to this dream, actually) I was telling my sister that I think I need to do something completely different to grow/change/learn to drum up new opportunities/possibilities since sitting at a computer looking for work (or looking at the newspaper, etc.) obviously isn't working. This way of looking is the only way my parents know and this is what is constantly reinforced.

In addition, I was working in a field that I felt burnt out in and I do not want to even look at another position in that field, period. Again, this is something that one of my parents think is foolish and yet this time I don't feel like that.

I say 'this time' because there was a 'last time' and I voluntarily quit (it was working for the same place) and wanted to change the course of my life but didn't.

The guy in my dream is also from that time of my life.

I just wonder if the dream may maybe relate to my feeling confined (in a sense) and my desire to want to "rebel" (going off with the guy in the dream). I was really trying to consider what you said and wanted to add some background to see if it might help?

I sincerely appreciate that you looked over my dream and provided me with something to think about.

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