I am in the car with my husband, he is driving, I am in the front passenger seat. There is a large field of dirt that has been plowed up with pathways that go in different directions and we decide to cut across this field and get off the main road to get where we are going. The dirt is a light golden sand color. We have done this once before---it is difficult to stay on the right path, to tell the difference between tracks the workers have made as they build this area and the path that is the way across the field. I look out the window and as my husband goes left I think he should have turned to the right, I sort of remember that way the way we went before but he passes it and keeps going the way he thinks is correct. We soon realize that we are on the wrong path and lost but keep driving until we come to a clearing where there are workmen standing around. He stops the car and we get out and ask for directions. One of the younger workmen mentions to an older man who seems to be in charge that they could show us how to get to the area where they park their cars. He adds that it is a really nice place to park. The one in charge disagrees with this and says he will lead us out.
Now we are going through a dark tunnel and I am holding onto the one in charge with one hand and holding my husband's hand with the other. The man in charge is walking very fast, I am able to keep up but my husband is having trouble going that fast---there are some other people with us too, behind my husband. I try putting by hand into the waistband of the man’s pants and hold onto his belt so that I can pull my husband along better but he still can’t keep up. I am wondering if I should I let go of my husband and stay with the man in charge, would I be able to find my way back to lead him and the people behind him out or would I forget the way back?

Thank you for any interpretations for this dream.

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Pat,
Basically I see a difference of opinion/path to take possibly involving a literal disagreement with your husband but almost for sure indecision between your masculine and feminine qualities {one wanting to be in control, the other using the senses but less logical {thinking self}. In the process there does seem to be a real difference of opinion or/and confusion. Here is how I break it down.

I see the dream addressing not only real life actions involving your husband but also interplay with your masculine self/animus as well. Both seem to have a balanced relationship but with the masculine self being just a bit in control {both of you are in the front seat with your husband driving}. There may be differences of opinions/approach between these masculine aspects, one wanting to go one way and the other another. The field of dirt may represent 'plowing up past differences' as well as uncovering emotional matters {fields are feminine symbols} that will lead to a better understanding of self {main road}. You have been down this path before {inner and outer?}. The path you take this time {involving both masculine possibilities} could will be rewarding {golden color}. This may suggest you need to get past particular barriers that caused the original conflict. The tracks laid previously is a bit different from this new path/experience. One part of you, the masculine {also look at a literal disagreement on directions involving your husband} is one of adventure, and the other, the feminine, desires is to take a more safe approach. There is a consideration of these two possibilities prior to a decision as well as considering the path you previously took. The masculine aspect{s} wants/needs to go past that experience {was the old direction a wrong turn?}. There is a discussion, inner and possibly a literal one with your husband. In the process the masculine is even unsure which path to take {having gone down the wrong path previously}.
Does this point to the feminine path as being the right approach?

The next paragraph does seem to suggest a good possibility there are two elements of the masculine involved, inner as well as an actual experience with your husband {I am holding onto the one in charge with one hand and holding my husband's hand with the other}. The dark tunnel would be a reference to unconscious connections with conscious understanding. Your masculine self may have taken control making it difficult for outer world relationships {to do with this matter}. You are going with your strong inclinations/instincts {staying with the man in charge} but faced with a challenge from other emotions {and people?} to whether this is the correct path/action to take. This also seems to suggest you have very strong masculine aspects that when utilized is a controlling agent in your life {also may suggest you tend to let your husband take the lead confirming his position as driver of the car/you}.

Take the above and apply it to both actual waking experiences with your husband as well as inner emotions. What conflicts in both these worlds {that are related} are you currently experiencing {or were at the time you had the dream?}.

Jerry

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Dear Jerry,
Your response has been very helpful as I think about how my husband and I view the "retirement" years very differently.
I hadn't considered the animus and that being pulled in different directions rings true. Most of your thoughts were right on target and have really opened up this dream for me, Thank you so much.

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Pat,
The 'two' possible meanings to every image/dream is an application of Jungian concept I have found to be a constant truth. The dream will focus on recent waking life experiences and at the same time address 'inner' aspects {masculine/animus} traits/foundations. Usually there is a primary focus on one or the other, often depending on the age of the dreamer {older person's dreams more often focused on reflection and foundation issues}. This is one reason I ask for age when posting a dream. I dare say the issues over retirement disagreements with your husband is a primary issue. But very likely the inner issues concerning the animus also.

Jerry

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