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Selling my Clothes/Choosing a Cemetary Plot

I had two dreams that have stuck with me over the past couple of days that while they are different, I feel like there is some sort of connection.

For the first dream, I am in a clothing store. I know it is The Limited (I don't know why it is The Limited, I don't shop there). Everything in the store - the racks, the floors, the walls, are white. The employees are wearing white, the store bags are white, the hangers are white. Everything except my clothes.

In the dream, I apparently took my clothes to The Limited for them to store them for me. They did this for free. I brought all of my clothing there, was able to hang all of my clothes on hangers and keep them there. I guess I didn't have enough room at home or something to keep them there (?) When I entered the store, I don't know why I am there, but I know that I am happy that they have been keeping my clothes.

I see an old co-worker of mine there, Matt, who in waking, was someone I thought would be really friendly because upon first meeting him he was really exuberant, but ended up being a b*tchy person and was someone who misunderstood most anything I said or took it wrong and wasn't as approachable or nice as I had previously thought. So in the dream he is hanging up one of my shirts. He is saying to me "isn't this great" and he is smiling and I was smiling back saying that I thought that the store was offering a great service with the storage.

Something makes me turn around and I see that it isn't what it seems: People are taking my clothes off of the clothing rack. They are PURCHASING my clothes (!?) I panic. I see my sister and my mom and tell them what is happening and I start taking my clothes off of the rack Matt was just putting them onto. I tell my mom and sister that I am taking my clothes out of this store. I start removing my clothing from the racks and begin to put them into a shiny chrome cart. I realize then that my clothes are spread out throughout the store. I see someone take a blue shirt and place it into a cart. I tell my mom "that woman is going to buy my shirt!" my mom tells me to just let her have it. I tell her that I am going to go over to her and just explain that she has my shirt by mistake. My mom tells me that won't go over well.

I head over to where the woman is towards the back of the store and say to the woman "excuse me, but this is my shirt - you can't buy this". the woman starts arguing with me. I then grab my shirt and say to her "but this is MY f*cking shirt!" and run off towards the front of the store.

I see my mom and sister removing my clothes from hangers near the front register. I realized my error about confronting the woman but just don't care. I head over to stand in line (weird) to demand store bags. I will argue with these people if they give me grief since they were wrong to be selling my clothes!

So for the other dream I was in a mausoleum with black and white checkered marble flooring. The room is very, very large and I get a glimpse of what will be in this room - a variety of tombstones. It's pretty dark but light enough to see inside the space. I am with my mom and we are discussing buying cemetery plots, but the graves would be in this room. We are thinking to put our graves into one large square shape. So there would be two tombstones on each side, facing outward, making this square shape. It would be very detailed and ornate, almost like the graves would form a little church (for lack of a better way of describing it). Each of the 4 corners will have tall pointed steeple like shapes.

There was someone else in the room with us, but I did not see them other than in my peripheral vision. It was masculine, shadowy.

To provide a bit of background: I just graduated with my Masters Degree on Saturday and I am out of work, but I am actively looking. I have a lot of financial concerns that I want to be sure I don't have to worry about. I think these dreams reflect aspects of that.

I appreciate your thoughts, interpretation and feedback.

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Re: Selling my Clothes/Choosing a Cemetary Plot

Jackie,
I normally provide an analysis of posted dreams within 36 hours but because of a personal illness {serious} in my family {my white male cat} and my regular work day on Saturdays { I am retired} it will be Sunday before I will be able to examine your dream. And because it is along dream it will take some time to do a proper analysis and I have always believed when you do something do it right. Anything less goes against my religion {although there is no specific religion I follow}. I appreciate your patience.

Jerry

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Re: Selling my Clothes/Choosing a Cemetary Plot

Jackie,
You didn't provide your gender is is most important. I am assuming you are female since the dream notes The Limited {a women's clothing store}. Jackie can be either a female or male name although I believe it is more used as a female. Let's hope I am correct because it can make a huge difference in my analyzing your dreams {time is valuable}.

I am going to provide an analysis of the second dream first since it is shorter and offers insights to what the first dream is trying to communicate. They do seem to be related {normal since your dreams are attempting to help resolve the emotional issues that are in conflict} with the second dream seemingly getting straight to the primary issue and the first dream addressing both inner issues as well as recent experiences related to the inner issues. Because of the health issues of my cat I will need to finish my analysis of the first dream tomorrow. Look at my analysis of the second dream and provide your thoughts on it. Those may help in understanding the first dream, especially any issues to do with recent experiences.

Second Dream
This dream looks to be addressing issues of a need to put an end to some aspect of yourself that stems from early life foundations that supports your personality and who you are {flooring}. This type imagery usually points to unconscious emotional issues that need to be understood so you can find a resolution to them. There are many aspects about yourself you have kept hidden away, aspects you may know about but do not wish to think about. There is certain aspects that may be buried because of the emotional energies associated with the experiences. This not only affects your inner being but also your conscious personality {aspects you probably are not aware of}. There is a need to understand these 'dead' aspects about yourself so there can be wholeness and happiness in your conscious life. These inner emotional aspects 'tower' over you conscious life, experiences/influences from early life that are now motivators for your personality and conscious life. There is a shadow and it not only affects masculine qualities within you {influences or puts limitations on these aspects} but may also point to experiences to do with actual 'masculine/men' {perhaps to do trusting men}. These issues tend to limits your vision, affects who you are in certain aspects in relationships {trust, men?}.

Summary
What emotional issues are there in your life {earlier life, perhaps as far back as childhood} do not wish to think about? These experiences may have an influence on how you see things as an adult, in relationships especially.

Jerry

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Re: Selling my Clothes/Choosing a Cemetary Plot

Hi Jerry,

Thank you for the response on the second dream. You know, I am wondering if perhaps that was tying in with something that caught myself (and of course, the rest of my family) off guard earlier this year. My uncle passed away and I always considered him my favorite uncle.

I have a lot of association with him from my childhood that was fun and we were close when I was growing up. I have been thinking a lot this year about trying to get my life in order (finish school, begin the next chapters) and I have been contemplating the life/death cycle and reflecting on the impact one's life can have on others and how to focus on being a better person.

Preparation has also been at the forefront of my mind when it comes to this. My uncle's passing was unexpected and he was buried in a way that most of my family didn't believe he would want to be buried, so it has me thinking about the importance of trying to set those things up to avoid potential rifts and so that no one would ever have to question if I would be happy with the burial scenario instead of there being family drama. I don't know, just realizing the value of trying to create less conflict is something I am examining as well and how important it is (I never thought much about it until this year and seeing some ugliness, you know?)

To be truthful, and as a side note, I do have to say that I do not trust men overall - the few that I do are very few, indeed. I don't think about it very much but I recognize that I feel this way (due to past experiences). Interesting that this could be coming through as well.

I didn't realize I had forgotten to put my sex, I was so focused on getting the dream out there - but you assumed correctly :) I can relate with you on your cat, my dog just had an ACL surgery just this past thursday, so I haven't been on really to check to reply until now.

I appreciate your response.

Thank you!
Jackie

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Re: Selling my Clothes/Choosing a Cemetary Plot

Jackie,
I'll provide further comment and take a look at the first dream later this morning {tentatively. My cat is in his last days}. But i do believe the second dream is going deeper into the issues of 'trust', especially in men. Are there reasons/experiences from early life that would provoke such feelings? The dream seems to be pointing to something that needs to be buried/put to rest {cemetery plots} or/and that is buried within your unconscious due the emotional energies they possess. I say or/and because it could be both, those experiences that are buried within your unconscious {something negative that occurred earlier in life} that needs to be acknowledged and 'laid to rest'. There is a shadow, masculine figure {which could point to an actual male although a shadow symbol is usually one of the same sex}. Let me look at the first dream and see what it might have to say about these cemetery plots and shadowy male presence.

Jerry

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Re: Selling my Clothes/Choosing a Cemetary Plot

Jackie,
I apologize for taking so long in providing an analysis of your second dream. I have been working on it but with my mind elsewhere {my sick cat} I don't want to rush my interpretation. From the images/actions in the dream I do sense there are negative energies where emotionally you are letting the masculine aspects overpower your higher qualities. Translation of that could suggest there were male persons in early at least {perhaps wholly} responsible for your lack of trust in men. I also read these 'masculine' aspects are unconscious controlling agents in your psyche.
Note: clothes are a common symbol for your personality, how you are perceived as well as how you perceive yourself.

I also am getting vibes there are issues to do with self esteem or/and self worth. If so those issues would be related to the 'masculine' energies that are motivators in your psyche. Unconsciously they would be controlling agents in your conscious life, a possibility for the distrust in men {which would stem from early life experiences with a man or men}.

Let me finish my analysis and put it all together. The distrust of men seems to be a prime issue in this dream as well as the second dream {the shadowy masculine}.

Jerry

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Re: Selling my Clothes/Choosing a Cemetary Plot

Jackie,
I finally finished my analysis of your second dream and as I stated previously the message is a continuation of the first dream.That message seems to be bout early life foundations that has affected your personality/psyche, experiences that have to do with a masculine aspect. I sense the prime candidate for who fits that role is a male who not only influenced your life but possibly your sister's and mother's {they were helping you move the clothes {your persona/outer ego self} from hangers {what you have based/hung your personality on, experiences/influences from early life}. What was the relationship with your father like? I sense possible repression of these 'clothing items' and a need to acknowledge the issues to help resolve personality issues from those experiences. Are there self esteem issues, issues of self worth due to perhaps a controlling father who never let you be who you really are? Both dreams point to this strong possibility. These issues likely are partly the reason you are in need of getting your life in order. The early life experiences/influences would be unconscious motivators for your personality and inability to trust men. Mistrust of men {or anything for that matter} just doesn't happen. There are reasons and often they are unconscious, energies beneath the surface you are not aware of. Ponder what I have offered and see if it fits. There is definitely something from in your 'clothing' that has affected you ability to be as progressive and make the achievements in life you desire.

One last comment. Because the shadow {your shadowy figure} is normally a person of the same sex of the dreamer, the 'someone else in the room' could be a female and the masculine could point to your animus {your masculine qualities}, a lack of masculine qualities. The person who is responsible for the deficiencies to wholeness in your adult life could be female.

Jerry

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Re: Selling my Clothes/Choosing a Cemetary Plot

I think I can see what you are saying. I am trying to piece this together. "Controlling" isn't the word I would use, but repressive (in a sense, but not entirely) is probably more fitting. This is something both of my parents take part in. They are both highly repressed/repressive people. Added to that, my mom grew up in an abusive household so as a result, she always raised us to be afraid of my dad (there was a lot of transference) which as an adult I while see to be without merit, I also understand how her mindset was framed...but I do also see how this impacts me today.

I am going to turn this around in my mind some more. Thank you for the interpretation...I really appreciate it!

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Re: Selling my Clothes/Choosing a Cemetary Plot

Jackie,
Here are my thoughts to your last response. I can see where the dream language from your original post, the last paragraph that reads, "There was someone else in the room with us, but I did not see them other than in my peripheral vision. It was masculine, shadowy" is your father. You state in your response, "my mom grew up in an abusive household so as a result, she always raised us to be afraid of my dad". The 'shadowy' masculine would naturally point to your father. Your mother's personality was 'limited' {not allowed to blossom as it should} because of her abusive childhood and the same would be true for you {an atmosphere where everyone was in fear of your father}. It is not only how her mindset was framed, it was how your was also. This is the clear message I got from your second dream where I stated, "This dream looks to be addressing issues of a need to put an end to some aspect of yourself that stems from early life foundations that supports your personality and who you are {flooring}". This is what both dreams point to.

As for mindset, that begins in the womb believe it or not and extends throughout early childhood. We now know that personality is formed by the age of nine and the majority of the foundations that personality is built is achieved by age 3. Growing up in an environment where there is a fear of the father naturally would contribute to the foundations. Those experiences/influences are imprinted on the psyche. Just as in the animal world {we are human animals} have imprinting from imitating their parents, the young minds of children also are greatly influenced by the world around them. It has been shown that many species of animals will follow the first form deemed as 'parent' when they are born which suggest the original mind sees the world around them as the prime governing influence. When a child sees the mother being abused, or is abused themself, that is imprinted on the brain and becomes a structured influenced and motivator in future life. Such experiences would also be a reason 'not to trust men overall', the overall experience in childhood {there were positive aspects as well no doubt} being the motivator for such attitudes. Much of Jungian psyche is 'common sense', it only makes sense that our animal instincts which are designed by nature are influenced if not comforts to the world around us {and then there are the natural archetypal structures within the psyche}.

Jerry

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