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Dream of cheating and mice.

I have posted on this thread twice before in the last couple of years. Both of them have been themed around my sexuality and deep mother wounds ie. A narcissistic mother. I am in a relationship with the same man I was during those posts and we are going on two years. My fears of being a lesbian have followed me. I am in therapy and I am looking at these fears and my disconnects from my own feminine.

In my dream last night, I was sitting in a room on the couch with another woman. I remember feeling a little bit of anxiety around my attraction to her. It was all mental… Questioning my attraction. I was holding a mouse, it must have been her pet mouse, because when it started to squirm away she told me to pick it up or It would go hide.

We then got up and walked to another room in the house, when her boyfriend and another woman walked out of the bedroom. One of them was holding a basket and I noticed there was *** inside. I said why is there *** inside that basket. The woman I was sitting with Immediately stormed away and sadness and frustration to another room, and the other woman, who was a friend of the couples went after her. The man walked into the kitchen and I remember feeling relieved that he was happy that it was out in the open. He said he didn’t want any secrets and he wanted it to be known. I we immediately stormed away and sadness and frustration to another room, and the other woman, who was a friend of the couples went after her. The man walked into the kitchen and I remember feeling relieved that he was happy that it was out in the open. He said he didn’t want any secrets and he wanted it to be known. I then remember hearing footsteps, and I assumed it was the other woman, I remember being afraid that she would be really upset that I called her out so I left the room only to realize no one was coming and walked back into the kitchen.

Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so so much.

Age & Gender & Location {Required}: 28, Female, Seattle

Have You Posted Before? Date of Last Post {Use Search and Your Post Name to Help Find Last Post} Yes: Sequence of three dreams + woman holding my head and water

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Re: Dream of cheating and mice.

Alyssa,
I'll analyze your dream either later today or in the morning. I want to look at your previous posted dreams to get a full understanding of those and your emotional life. But one question related to your comments. Your therapy and your fears of being a lesbian. Is this therapy with a traditional therapist or with someone who practices 'corrective' therapy? I assume it is traditional but want to be sure since the latter can be most damaging.

Also. Are there people close to you who look at being gay as unnatural/wrong? Or possess attitudes that would make you not want to come out {if you are indeed gay}? The two questions I see as to what the feminine attraction means is whether you are indeed gay and need to let your true self 'come out' or/and there are other issues related to your mother that need to be resolved. The latter could be construed as sexual orientation but actually have nothing to do with sexuality.

An important question. Are you physically attracted to women?

Jerry

Age & Gender & Location {Required}: 68 Altoona, Fl

Re: Dream of cheating and mice.

Hi there,

Definitely not corrective therapy. In an open to all possibilities, look at the truth kind of therapist. My grandparents are openly not accepting of gays, and I grew up in a church environment, So there is definitely some old programmed homophobia and repressing of my sexual energy. I have explored with women in the past and been openly bisexual. Yes, I find myself attracted to women sometimes, but women are beautiful… And I am realizing it is OK to be attracted to women without that having to mean anything. I love the man that I am with deeply and there is so much healing happening in our relating.

Re: Dream of cheating and mice.

I am currently 3 months into a no contact boundary that I have created with my mother as I am trying to heal from the wounds of a narcissistic mother.

Re: Dream of cheating and mice.

Alyssa,
I think your statement, "I am realizing it is OK to be attracted to women without that having to mean anything" is what the dream is addressing. You are learning {through therapy} to be your true self, accept who you really are {your sexuality}. In one aspect that seems to be the primary theme of the dream and it would fit with your current conscious situation of being in therapy. You are not there yet but you are progressing.

That being said that is but one issue {sexaulity}. The other is your programming and those who programmed you. I am a firm believer that all dreams have at least two meanings/applications {as did Jung}. The dream is dealing with the sexual aspects but also the foundations of your psychological makeup. It is more difficult to accept your true self because of your foundations and those people, parents and grandparents in particular, who programmed you. Resolving that aspect is as much the task as is the sexual aspects. The last part of the dream is dealing with that, the need to confront the emotional energies/people who have not provided the emotional nourishment you require. You are literally avoiding your mother but metaphorically you have yet to find resolution to that relationship {as well with others}.

Here is my analysis of the images and actions from the dream.

Title: Dream of cheating and mice
-self guilt, sexual passion, feelings of inadequacy

In my dream last night, I was sitting in a room on the couch with another woman
-spending much time examining your emotions/attitudes related to feminine aspects

I remember feeling a little bit of anxiety around my attraction to her
-anxieties related to inner feminine/emotional aspects

It was all mental… Questioning my attraction
-psychological doubts of attraction to inner and outer feminine aspects

I was holding a mouse, it must have been her pet mouse, because when it started to squirm away she told me to pick it up or It would go hide
-I was holding a mouse, it must have been her pet mouse-controlling emotions of feeling flawed/inadequate/a need for acceptance of self
-because when it started to squirm away she told me to pick it up or It would go hide-agonizing emotions that are unconsciously elevated

We then got up and walked to another room in the house, when her boyfriend and another woman walked out of the bedroom
-We then got up and walked to another room in the house-progressing and making conscious unknown aspects
-when her boyfriend and another woman walked out of the bedroom-trusted masculine aspects in relationship to who you really are

One of them was holding a basket and I noticed there was *** inside
-difficulty in controlling your emotions

I said why is there *** inside that basket
-self doubts of how you really feel

The woman I was sitting with Immediately stormed away and sadness and frustration to another room, and the other woman, who was a friend of the couples went after her
-The woman I was sitting with Immediately stormed away-aspect of conscious self causing emotional disturbance
-sadness and frustration to another room-inner aspects that dwell on the negative that cause difficulties with coping in you conscious life
-the other woman, who was a friend of the couples went after her-true self admonishing other self {not who you really are}

The man walked into the kitchen and I remember feeling relieved that he was happy that it was out in the open
-The man walked into the kitchen-being strong in your progression in search for emotional nourishment {nourishment you have not received}
- I remember feeling relieved that he was happy that it was out in the open-compensating your conscious self by being open to your true feelings/self

He said he didn’t want any secrets and he wanted it to be known
-acknowledging unconscious feelings to conscious life

I we immediately stormed away and sadness and frustration to another room, and the other woman, who was a friend of the couples went after her
-I we immediately stormed away and sadness and frustration to another room-discarding true feelings/self putting them away in conscious life
-and the other woman, who was a friend of the couples went after her-positive confrontation with true self

I then remember hearing footsteps, and I assumed it was the other woman, I remember being afraid that she would be really upset that I called her out so I left the room only to realize no one was coming and walked back into the kitchen.
-I then remember hearing footsteps-conscious stress
-I assumed it was the other woman-conscious dependence on waking self {being not who you really are}
-I remember being afraid that she would be really upset that I called her out-stressed from questioning who you really are
-so I left the room only to realize no one was coming and walked back into the kitchen-a need to confront emotional energies/people that are not providing proper emotional nourishment

Jerry








Age & Gender & Location {Required}: 68 Altoona, Fl

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