Pixeltwistr,
Thanks for the response and added info. The info provides possible insights to his mind and thinking.

An important aspect about dreams is the dreamer's dream is about that person's emotional energies and any other known person is in relationship to the dreamer or/and aspects about that person the dreamer identifies with. The dream is not about that other person but is in relationship to the dreamer. Aspects of that person would be aspects of the dreamer, that person could/would represent the dreamer. With this you in the dream would not only be a literal application but likely represent his anima. You are him not only in a literal sense {one bedroom apartment, the two of you being alone} but metaphorically {which means the same as}.
Keep this in mind as I analyze/interpret the dream images/actions/symbols. There would be a literal application as well as symbolic.

I performed an in-depth analysis of the dream using the info you provided. But because it gets complicated I will only list the major points I believe the dream is addressing {in its primarily symbolic language}.

-running into each other-opposing emotional energies

--grocery store-emotionally and mentally strained and needing emotional nourishment

--you were telling me-inner communication with his anima

-- looking for-looking for what is lacking

--one bedroom apartment- A bedroom represents aspects that are kept private and hidden as well as sexual nature and intimate relations.
----one-solitude or loneliness as well as originality {foundations for personality and attitudes}
----apartment-major aspect of the dreamer’s life. Also refers to financial or/and emotional state

--you couldn't find any-can’t find what is lacking in emotional/physical life

--you said you had to talk to me-a literal application as well inner communication with himself and his emotions

--I said let me take care of a couple of things-[he is working on two aspects of the emotional energies {current issues as well as childhood issues

--and we'll talk-a need to understand his inner issues {the function of dreams is to resolve emotional/physical issues}

-we ended up in one bedroom apartment sleeping together-his desire to reunite/reconcile
---Sleeping with someone in a non sexual manner represents avoiding some issue or situation that is being symbolized by the person
---sleeping also denotes peace of mind. He is seeking ways to better his situation and finding peace of mind.


Summary of interpreted images/actions
-opposing emotional energies
-emotionally and mentally strained and needing emotional nourishment
-inner communication with his anima {feminine energies/relationships}
-looking for what is lacking
-private and hidden aspects
-solitude or loneliness as well as originality
-major aspect of the dreamer’s life/financial or/and emotional state
-can’t find what is lacking in emotional/physical life
-literal talking with you as well inner communication with himself
-working on two aspects of the emotional energies-current issues as well as childhood issues
-a need to understand his inner issues to resolve emotional/physical issues
-desire to reunite/reconcile/current issues as well as childhood
-avoiding issued or situations symbolized by the person/literal person
-finding peace of mind

Summary
His current situation puts him in a position of needing emotional/physical/financial nourishment. The dream is attempting to sort through both the current issues as well as his childhood issues {with mother?}. The question is, does he want to reconcile with you because he genuinely cares for you or because of his current negative place in life? The childhood issues are secondary but will help in understanding his thinking.
Caution is needed. From personal experience I found myself in a similar situation at the end of my third marriage. I had similar issues from childhood but with my father. I attempted to reconcile the marriage without reconciling my inner issues and that was a no go. I finally reconciled my inner issues when I discovered Jungian psyche {and ended up in retirement by choice living alone but with 16 rescued cats}.

Jerry

Age & Gender & Location {Required}: 70 Altoona, Fl

Thank you so much!
This helped clear things up a bit more!

He had a good relationship with his mother howeve maybe that portion has something to do with the fact that she died suddenly about 15 years ago and his family never told him she was sick because they didn’t think it was serious so she died without him being there...

I have been very closed off and haven’t really let him know what I’m thinking one way or the other through all of this because my biggest question in my head was is he missing me after all this time because he misses me or because his situation has changed....

Thank you so much for taking the time to give me your insights!

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Pixeltwistr,
Yes, whether he wants to get back together because he cares or because of his dire position is question that needs to be answered. His actions leading to the divorce may shine light on that. What is really going on in his mind is what the dream is providing but because it is such a short dream there isn't much to go on. But even short dreams can reveal his true emotions. But it is just a part of the puzzle with future dreams revealing even more emotional contents

No doubt he is seeking help because he is dire straights financially and the dream will be dealing with that. His mother's death and the surrounding circumstances could be part of the emotional energies in the dream as well. It does depict a need for emotional nourishment which would likely be on reason to reunite. But that alone isn't telling whether it is just that or much more. Much more is probably the answer. My analysis of his solitude and loneliness are addressing his current situation but it is also likely addressing his 'original' emotional foundations. That is why it is important to understand his relationship with his mother. His attitude toward relationships and women would stem in great part due to the mother relationship {as it would be with a father relationship}. If he is acting out of unconscious stimulus that could reveal why he wanted a divorce as well as why he wants to get back together. Age is important and is not uncommon for marriages to fail in the 50s. It is a stage when reflection, both conscious and unconscious are common. The unconscious foundational energies drive the individual throughout life and when we get to the age when we realize death is a real event the life can change. Whatever is out of balance will come up as points of conflict and the need to achieve balance will be an unconscious drive that direct the unconscious. If he was seeing another woman it could be because there are unmet needs from his childhood. It would less about you and as much as an unconscious need for fulfillment. The other woman would be a 'test' substitute for those needs. If it was another woman the changes in his life 6 months earlier may have been because that relationship failed.

Logic is the antithetical to emotional actions. Going past the dream and his unconscious reasoning for his actions look at what has transpired since the changes 6 months ago. He is penniless and alone and needs emotional nourishment {that is in the dream}. Similar to my experiences I noted the first reaction was to reunite with my wife. It was less about reconciling the differences as it was reconciling the unconscious drives to find emotional nourishment and security. If that is his reasoning {conscious and/or unconscious} then it is not the right reasoning. Getting back together is an attempt to fill his conscious financial situation and not fulfilling the unconscious needs {of emotional nourishment}. And again, knowing his unconscious reasoning {from childhood foundations} would shine light {a very bright one} on which is which.

You are right to insist on taking in person and on your terms and if he can't meet those then that alone may be telling. Thus far he has asked others for help, family members and has yet to be independent. Time is on your side. Let him come to you and if he is really sincere in wanting to reunite hopefully you can determine his true motives. Understanding the unconscious energies related to his dependence on his mother {a good relationship} may help determine his motives. Getting him to talk about his relationship with his mother may provide insights. Does he need a mother or a wife?

Jerry

Age & Gender & Location {Required}: 70 Altoona, Fl