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                                               Brother Larry Ritchey                      " Free Spirit " Artist: Jillane Curreen

 When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,  to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.  They are there for the reason you need them to be.  Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.  Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.  Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.  What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.  The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.  

There are many different responses to crisis. Most survivors have intense feelings after a traumatic event but recover from the trauma; others have more difficulty recovering — especially those who have had previous traumatic experiences, who are faced with ongoing stress, or who lack support from friends and family — and will need additional help.

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How we deal with it...my story

MY NAME IS BRIAN EVERYONE CALLS ME BEAR. I AM 33 YARS OF AGE AND A FATHER AND HUSBAND.. ON OCT. 20,2006 I WAS STRUCK DOWN BY A 74 YEAR OLD DRUNK DRIVER. I WAS RIDING A 2004 KAWASAKI VOLCAN VN2000. I WAS THROWN OVER 90FT. I BROKE EVERYTHING FROM THE WAIST DOWN: BOTH SIDES OF MY PELVIS, SHATTERED LEFT PHEAMER, FRACTURED RIGHT PHEAMER, SHAFT FRATURE FROM ANKLE TO KNEE IN RIGHT SHINE, SHATTERED RIGHT ANKLE, CRUSKED AND AMPUTATED LEFT FOOT.. I NOW AM HELD TOGETHER WITH 6 SCEWS AND A ROD TO REPLACE THE LEFT PHEAMER... YEP I HAVE A PROTHSETIC. IT ACTUALLY REALLY COOL.. LOL... I WAS IN ICU FOR 6WEEKS AND RECOVERY FOR 6 MORE, THEN REHAB EVER SINCE. I MISS RIDING VERY MUCH AND MISS THE WIND IN MY FACE. YES I KNOW THAT I COULD DO IT AGAIN BUT FOR RIGHT NOW I HAVE MADE A PROMISE TO MY WIFE AND KIDS THAT I WOULD TAKE A BRERAK FOR A WHILE... I HAD TO LEAR TO WALK ALL OOVER AGAIN AND WILL HAVE TO USE A CANE OF SOME SORT FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE... I WILL CHAT WITH ANYONE WHO WANTS TOOJUST EMAIL ME..

I HAVE TO SAY THROUGH IT ALL YOU HAVE TWO CHOICES OF HOW YOU ARE GOING TO BE AFTER DEALING WITH THIS TYPE ON ACCIDENT.. YOU EITHER MAKE THE BEST OF IT AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE OR YOU CAN LET IT CONSUME YOU AND DESTROY YOUR LIFE..

ILL MOVE ON THANKS.. JUST KEEP AN OPEN MIND AND AN OPEN HEART.. THE ROAD IS TOUGH BUT THEN AGAIN SO ARE WE..

I FOUND A QUOTE WITH NO AUTHER ON THE NET AND HAVE ADOPTED IT AS MY MATO>>>>>
" LIFES JOURNEY IS NOT TO ARRIVE AT THE GRAVE IN A WELL PRESERVED BODYBUT RAHTER TO SKID IN SIDEWAYS TOTALY WORN OUT, SHOUTING "HOLYSHIT WHAT A RIDE"
I ADDED "FOR WE ARE BIKERS 4 LIFE"

I COULDNT SAY IT ANY BETTER.....
LOVE LOYALTY HONOR AND RESPECT
BRIAN "BEAR" PERRY AKA BIKER4LIFE

Re: How we deal with it...my story

Good Evening Brian
I am a left leg AKA. Lost my leg while riding my Harley Davidson FXDWG on May 22 o5. I still ride but have a side car so my wife can ride with me. I plan on getting back up on 2 wheels this summer. I am 66 yrs old and have been riding since I was 13. I MUST ride. If you still want to ride then ride but with caution. Do not be afaride to ride. Fear makes you tence up and you cannot control your bike very well when tenced up. Like riding when you are cold. Send me an e-mail and let me know how you are doing. I will send you pictures of how I moved my controls to the right side. Hang in there bear.
Sincerely
Larry

Re: How we deal with it...my story

Hello Bear,
What a refreshing outlook to a story that could go so far the other way when allowed. You are an awesome person with an attitude that can be commended. I hope you get the opportunity to spread your positive outlook to as many brothers & sisters as you can. It will do more to heal others & hopefully grow over time if everyone picks up the ball & runs with it!

I was hit last May on my way to work. I turned 50 just 3 mos. earlier, & I've learned the hard way that I'm not as young as I used to be. Since finding this site this week, I also found how lucky I am to be no worse off than I am.

I may not ride again (my choice), but I will support the rights, the awareness, and the need for continued safety alerts on behalf of riders past, present, and feature.

Loved your quote, so I'll pass it on in your honor!
Think I'll be dropping you an E Mail to chat some more. Keep up the spirits brother, you could lead an army!

Till Later,
Jeff[8-)

Re: How we deal with it...my story

Hi, Brian. I just wanted to write to you and tell you to keep the attitude you have. It will get you through all this. My husband is 60 now and on Sept 27, 2006, he had a motorcycle accident that left him paralyzed from the neck down. He was in rehab for 3 months after his accident. After his surgery, the surgeon told us that he couldn't say whether he would ever function again or not. Spinal injuries are pretty strange injuries and they take a LONG time to heal. But we went back 3 months ago to his rehab doctor and he was just amazed. The last time he saw him a year ago, he had a bad infection and didn't even know my name or our grandkids names and couldn't move a muscle. But when he went back 3 months ago and we told him that he could push himself up to standing and do knee bends, he was just floored! So, you just never know what a lot of hard work can do and a lot of prayers can do. He works his butt off in therapy every day of the week and he is determined to ride again. (He was actually injured riding a 1952 Harley KR750 race bike and it wasn't anyone elses fault. Just something that happened that shouldn't have). We have sold 1 of his Harley and also the one that I rode (I don't think I can ever get on a bike again, nor do I think that I want to), but we have kept the race bike and 3 other Harleys. He talked about having a side car put on the Street Glide and me hauling him around in it, but it will be awhile before he can maintain a sitting position to do that. Plus, I don't really want to ride one.

We have been blessed with having 4 exceptional friends who have stuck by us and who come faithfully every week to help with his therapy. You probably know that you find out who your "true" friends are when something like this happens. No one knows what to say and it makes them uncomfortable seeing the person in their condition.

We'll keep you in our prayers for a quick recovery. Keep plugging along. You can do anything that you put your mind to doing. And whatever you do, don't ever give up.

Sincerely,
Peggy