Today I had a very strange dream that I'm confused about. It starts out that I'm sitting in the living room of a childhood house with my mother and a random African American guy I barely knew. I have never seen him before in real life and I'm caucasian if that makes any difference. Anyway, at some point I sit on this guy's lap and we just start making out. He mentions that he is surprised that it happened so quickly, but I seem so happy with him. Then, I go upstairs thinking that he's going to be thereand instead it's this super skinny girl with long dark hair. We start talking and she's hitting on me. She takes off her clothes and is in her bra and underwear. I tell her that I am into guys right now and I don't think I could have a relationship with a girl. (I've previously been with girls off and on.) She storms out and then all of a sudden I'm looking at a computer with a website up. She's on the website... it's like one of those porn pay sites or something. I find this crazy and go to tell someone about it, I think one of my friends... and then I wake up. Can you give me any insights? Thanks!
Tiffany

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Tiffany,
Your dream presents difficult decisions as where to start with an interpretation. First there is your age {22} which must be considered and second is the inclusion of a childhood house within the dream. Age is always a factor in determining the meaning of dreams and anytime a childhood house is within a dream there must be a consideration of real experiences from that period of time. My take is that since you are caucasian and the African American man is someone you have 'never seen him before in real life' the dream may be addressing possible taboos in your life {which you admit to in having had relationships with other women}. But I don't completely dismiss the possibility the dream is addressing something from your childhood, perhaps to do with your mother. That possibility could be influences from your mother passed on to you. Is your life, or important aspects of your life very similar to that of your mother's life. Look back at your childhood and try to determine any relationships to that period of time that may have an influence on who you are today.

What leads me to believe this dream may be addressing certain taboos, sexual, other than the house with the black man and your mother, is how the dream changes to the scene of the super skinny girl and the sexual connotations. Unconsciously you may be trying to work through the emotional part of these sexual aspects {that is what dreams do-help you sort through conflicting emotions}. Although you prefer men you have engaged in relationships with other women. Many think of such experiences as taboo, something you don't normally do {although our society is changing in much of its thinking about such things}. The dream may be trying to sort through your emotions as it pertains to these experiences and desires. Since you have had 'taboo' sexual experiences with other women, why not include in your fantasies 'taboo' experiences with a black man {black representing something considered as opposite of what is acceptable}. Have you had such fantasies?

Getting back to the childhood references in your dream. I have found with many bi-sexual men there is a desire for experiences with both men due to unconscious motivations from childhood. Not necessarily repeating actions of your mother {that is a possibility but rare} but trying to find love and acceptance through sexual experiences. Exploration of the sexual self is not uncommon among these men, or women. There need not be a true desire to be with a man {or for women another woman}, it is just another avenue of escape. Substituting what was lacking as a child {love and acceptance} for sex as an adult.

Does this fit with who you are? Let me know your thoughts and perhaps we can better discern what the dream is trying to address. As I stated earlier your dream is not easily readable because of those factors mentioned {plus it provides an escape clause for me if my interpretation is way off the mark}. But i do believe there is enough evidence within the dream that will fit with what I have provided and fits with parts of your life.

Your response to my interpretation may help clarify what is right with my conclusions and what isn't.

Gerard

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