I had a few dreams last night that were strange, and which woke me up, but I lost the first details since I was still too sleepy to write it.

In my first dream I was back at childhood home #2, but I was the age I am now. I am not sure what I was trying to do, I can't quite remember. But, someone I had spoken to on the phone, a stranger, was going to be coming over, either to get something or bring something.

I expected him to be tough, because he was a former boxer. When I opened the door he was very much shorter than me (I'm 5'3), with a curved back, and broad muscular shoulders, but he was deformed. His legs were like rubber and they were very short, and thin, and just cut off because he had been in an accident during his boxing career. They were triangular, the bottoms of his legs were the points. He had suffered a head injury and as a result his face was so appalling. He had teeth that were rotted, and pimples on his forehead, he was wearing the boxing gloves. His forehead was also large, and going down to his chin, almost in a triangular shape as well. His eyes were very kind though and I let him in and I shook hands with his glove and we boxed, which I rather enjoyed, since I like to box. I had a good time with him and we forgot what he came over for in the first place. I was at first shocked by his appearance, but I got over it quickly. If it's at all important he had a dark skin tone.

In the second dream I was back in high school watching a movie. I wasn't really a student though, it was like we all just got together to hang out. The teacher was one who I had a huge crush on back then, but the rest of the class was all boys who I don't like, the ones that were just mean. I was getting along fine with them though. My mom was also in the class and everyone was talking about my 19 year old sister that wears a diaper. They seemed to be belittling her and so I defended her profusely. I was a bit mad at my mom because she seemed to be encouraging the conversation.

We started to watch a movie, not sure what it was about, but this guy laid his head on me, he is a HUGE guy and we were never friends in HS. I was rubbing his head and trying to calm him down because he was very upset about being raped. I was crying, because I didn't realize he had been raped. I felt much empathy for him for some reason.

My mom was mad at me for letting him lay his head on me, and I told her, hey mom he was raped, ok, let me comfort him. Then he crawled all the way into my lap, and his head was down by my feet, and he was so large he just couldn't fit in my lap and his legs were on the couch next to me. I tried to straighten him up and he said that he was comfortable that way as long as I keep my feet at an angle so he can see the movie.

Another boy was sitting next to me(he was in a desk, I was on a couch), he had been a grade below me in school, and he was telling me that he had a picture of me from the open house and that he was going to throw it out. I was a bit insulted that he didn't want to keep it, or that he didn't offer it to me.

For some reason this dream bothered me because it left me with much saddness and I was very much crying in my sleep. It's also strange that the person who was raped that I was comforting was a boy that I have no feelings for at all(good or bad), I was indifferent to him & I can't think of what he would represent.

There seems to be a part which involved running, but as I can't remember it clearly I'll have to post a response if I can think of it later.


I've also been dreaming a lot lately about different apartments/houses for me to live in. When I go to bed I ask my subconcious to let me know if moving out is the right thing to do and every night I have a dream about me searching for the perfect place to live, and I am always excited and happy in the dream.

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I remember now, why I wanted to post in the first place.

Sometime during the second dream, I got into a fight. I beat up a boy for some reason, I remember looking at myself in my dream & being surprised by who I was fighting, because he couldn't possibly represent me or any inner conflict I have in any way. I didn't know why I was fighting him, but I was beating the crap out of him. I was just hitting him again and again and again, and he was trying to fight me back, but I won.


That is also something that struck me, which I woke up from, was that I was fighting in my dreams, which has happened in the past, but this felt different. I felt the raw anger, rage and almost like being out of control. My conscious was aware of the dream, and commenting on it.

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Hi, Posh:

I am on my way to work now. I work weekends to free up a few days during the week for my academic studies. But I wanted to let you know I will have some things to share with you regarding your dream, when I am able to respond - probably late tomorrow. In the interim, I imagine someone else may post with some helpful, interpretive information.

Best,
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Thanks Kristi,

I really value your insight, and anyone else's as well.

:)

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Last night I had another dream that took place in this house:

My bf and I were at the house to stay the night for some reason, and then we would be going back to England the next day at 4 in the afternoon.

My mom and step-dad (a different step-dad, I've had two) were at the grocery store when we first got there. We went into the bedroom and laid on the twin bed to watch the TV, and when they got back they sat in chairs and were looking in the room at us from the living room and watching the TV with us. I commented on this thinking it was funny that they were watching our tv instead of their own. There had been a blanket hanging down from the door way (we didn't have doors on our rooms) and they had moved it, and I felt an invasion of privacy. I knew they were watching the TV but I felt as if they were watching us.

My stepdad came into the room and laid down on the bed, his face was close to my feet. I felt very uncomfortable even though I knew I was safe with my bf and my mom there.
My mom told me that my step-dad had offered to change my little sisters diaper for her, the one who is 19. I was so mad. I started to yell at him and tell him he was a pervert and I wanted to kick his teeth in! He hopped up and backed up against the wall, but acted rather nonchalant about it all. My mom realized how angry I was and told me she had just been joking, and that she didn't mean it. I knew she was just saying that to make me feel better and I was pissed. My skin started to peel, it was flaky, and I would pull of big chunks of it, which looked like it had bubbles in it. That was gross. I was appalled by it. My bf was just watching me and helping me to peel off the pieces. I held it up to show my stepdad and he took it and I knew instantly what he was going to do. I begged him not to do it, I begged him not to put it in his mouth but he did anyways. He ate it, and it was like clinging to his lip. My bf and I were completely disgusted by this. He left the room and said he would be waking us up at 4 so we could leave.

That was it, but the dream again bothered me.


I really like the dream interpretations I have been reading around the site. I noticed a lot of people are coming to revelations with theirs, but I feel clueless about mine. I would love to try and interpret other peoples dreams, but I can't even figure out my own. I have no idea what my psyche is trying to tell me. Even with the advice and guidance of my last dreams, I still feel as though I am not getting something, like I am missing the big picture.

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Hi Posh

Every one has the ability to interpret dreams, with a little patience and intent they do tend ro unravel themselves, for the dreaming mind was never meant to complicate matters for us.

The first premise is to recognise that ultimately the dream is All about the dreamer, what I mean by that is that each element within ones dream reflects a particular aspect of ones total being, each symbol and character that plays out originates from deep within our mind/unconscious self and within that we attribute the voices and actions of each of those characters/symbols. To summarise then each of character/symbol is really an expression of our own thoughts/behaviour/attitudes/feelings and intuitions.

Male characters often represent our masculine/mind side that is our thoughts, beliefs that we have about ourselves and others, our attitudes that we have in relation to our self and others and our behaviour.

Female characters will reflect our emotional self, a feeling, an instinct or an intuition we have.

People ask why do our dreams not tell us dead pan what the message is, the reason for this is that symbols are out first 'language' and vocabulary is our second language, our inner nature expresses it 'SELF' in symbols and imagery and is 'feminine'. Our True Self does not think in concepts this is only the tool of the mind (masculine) that has developed, and reflects itself in masculine symbology.

Our feelings often motivate our behaviour and attitudes, we 'act' on our intuition, the feminine is our inner and the masculine is our outer.

Dreams reflect this relationship that exosts between our feminine and masculine dynamics within, when both are in harmony there is no conflict and our dreams reflect imagery of peace and tranquility, however when the relationship is disrupted between our masculine and feminine energy there becomes a block in this flow and our dreams reflect this disharmony through dreams of conflict and feelings that are not conducive to our natural state of being.

I said at the beginning that it is within every ones ability to determine a dreams understanding in some depth, i say this because we all have an internal well of wisdom that we can access. Wisdom is different from knowledge in the sense that we do not have to read books or study hard about psychology and other sciences of the mind to understand our innerself, we need only to tap into it for our innerself is always there waiting to be 'acted' on or listened too. To do this we need to withdraw our senses from our external world and take them inside so that we begin to sense within our 'within'.

Meditation is one such practice that many people use both in contempory society and in the eastern world, what this practice does is to serve just that purpose it helps us to withdraw our senses from the external world and to go within to 'listen' within to our feelings and thoughts froma detached place as if we were observing some one else without getting caught up in the 'thought' or 'feeling'.

The way i first started to learn to understand my dreams was through intention, writing them down is the first step and then asking my higher self for help in understanding my dream. Our higher self is that part of us that has profound depths in ability to understand our true nature after all the higher self is our true nature by calling upon this part of our self we are able to make contact with something that is more refined within us, it is the source of our intuition and instinct about something it helps us to understand and develop wisdom.

Looking at your dream the one you had last night and taking the premise the dream is all about you first,

The bedroom and the bed seems to imply that this space is reflecting an intimate space in your within, this space is generally not expressed to others its a very personal space of ones thoughts and feelings and it is likely that you are not much aware of it yourself, these ways of feeling and thinking 'lie' deep within your self your intimate self.

Your boyfriend likely represents those forms of behaviour and attitudes that you are in 'relationship' with within yourself, what i mean by this is that you share in some way the same 'attitudes' towards yourself as he has towards you, hence why you attracted him into your life initially.

If we Love ourselves we attract those partners into our life who reflect that same self love, if we feel unworthy we attract partners into our life that will reinforce this belief we have about ourselves, for criticism and judgement of another can not exist within love, imagine the most loving and compassionate person, the dalilama for example, or maybe some beautiful goddess imagery, who emenates love, and then imagine someone who is angry within their presence it is likely they will in the end release their anger and start to melt and cry for anger cannot exist in the presence of love and so it is within our relationships negative energies cannot exist within love if we love our selves then we will attract those same partners who love us, this also happens when we begin to grow we may find that partners leave us because the relationship has run its course and an evolution takes place one person moving to a higher vibration of existence in which the other is uncomfortable.

Whatever attitude or belief your boyfriend represent that you have about yourself exsists within the intimate layers of your psyche and is for you to decide it may be positive as well as negative trait but this is what you are in relationship with your masculine energy at least in the dream.

In our younger lives in fact throughout all our life, we absorb others energy into our own energy system, for example if we grow up in an abusive environment weather verbal or physical then we will start to relate to ourselves as others relate to us in a way that is not 'Truly' conducive for our well being.

We will absorb the impression and imagery of the other person until it becomes a part of our own expression, this is the trauma right here, the experience becomes absorbed and becomes a part of our own energy and expression it is something we feel and act out from. As the person may have moved out of our lives long ago and the experience and conditioning we hold from such a situation is not theirs any more but ours its all happening and playing out with inside of us, it is important to recognise this for this is how we come to heal because if we dont we end up in a cycle where we blame others still for our misgivings this is the point of releasing any type of experience that has impacted on us, by owning the experience as one your having, and why I say that firstly the dream is all about the dreamer, because if we bring others into it then a separation takes place within where we believe that a character in the dream is about them, thus continuing to disassociate from the feeling, behaviour, trauma etc.

Now in the intimate layers of your psyche another presence makes itself known this masculine energy is also a part of you your experience, and there is likely a lot of fear around its presence, this fear is what keeps it in place, as certain aspects of ourself bubble up from the unconsciousness we tend to react out of fear and push them back down, forces however are present in which you feel protected enough to allow this energy to come in to your more personal space, and act out its motives, attitudes and character.

Your little sister as a baby is likely representing your own child innocence/self that this predatory masculine energy abusing in you, your own innocence/innerchild is beingundermined in some way by this attitude you have towrds yourself whih likely stems from the relationship you had with yourstep father, he has now left your life but you still continue to act this way towards yourself with a predatory type attitude that threatens to pervet abuse your innocence.

You respond with anger at this ongoing inner conflict you have between your masculine energetic and and feminine innocence part of self that is spontaneous and loving open and vulnerable, undefensive.

There are many ways to work with dreams the best way i have found for me is to let them take you to your within so that you hear all the voices within the dream as your own energy and how it is damning or blocking your peace and tranquiity as you work with the dream any memories or feelings that come up dont disregard them go with them through writing or journaling without taking your pen of the paper ljust keep writing often a memory will come to the fore and our minds try to distract or disregard what it is thats surfacing as being non relative you useless information, the truth is every thought feeling ahs relevance, if your mind blocks just write i dont have anything to say or my mind is blank just keep expressing what 'imagery' comes. i found this a very powerful exercise that unearthed all sorts of experiences from life that I gave no importance too, its best to be as honest as possible with yourself, if your uncomfortable about keeping what you have written you can always create a ceremony to burn the writings after which in affect is telling your unconscious that you are now choosing to release all those experiences that no longer serve you.
By bringing love to your self as well particularly when you felt fear ie happy that your mum and boyfriend was there reconnect to that same scene again and feel how you felt in the dream now bring in the love of your higherself and as a loving force stand by your own side calming any fears you have and bringing love to yourself, this can be done in a visulisation exercise by lying somewhere quitel' y and closing your eyes go with your own innerwisdom of how to bring about healing to your self.

for more ways of relasing the past and healing yourself, a beautiful book was written by a woman Gill edwards the book is called living magically, another favorite is a book called heal your life by louise hay.

Best to you Marce

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Hi Posh,

My, what a lot of activity. It's too much for me to think about, so please allow me to mention the first dream with the boxer. Seeing you do this activity in real life, how would you describe it to me? What do you get out of it.

The dream has a definite "Beauty and the Beast" feel to it. I remember in the Disney film when Belle looking into the eyes of the beast that changed her perception of him. Now the origins of "BATB" is from "Metamorphosis or Golden Ass" written by Apuleius around 200BC. It is part of the Eros and Psyche fable. In the fable Psyche was conditioned to believe her husband was the most horrible beast that lived in the shadows and it was her fate to be with him, as told to her by an oracle. The reality was that her husband was the God of Love - Eros (Cupid). Just like "BATB", Belle percieves the masculine energy as a beast, but in reality the energy is a prince and is destined to be her life's partner. So, in my mind your psychic development is following this fable, but instead of exhibiting fear and loathing, like Belle did when first meeting the beast, you show compassion, or the dream is compensating you towards compassion.

I hope this gives you some depth to the dream, Posh.

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I am so confused.

Little words please!

I understand that dreams are about the dreamer. I just have trouble figuring out what mine are telling me. I can feel it is important, I just am not sure about what.

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Hi posh We can be told much about what is happening inside ourselves but the next step is to experience that for our self so we can consolidate this understanding at an experiential and true level for us, this way we deepen our understanding of ourself and as we gain wisdom and insight healing will follow.

With the premise the dream is about the dreamer, and if you were to hazard a guess what would you say the dream is about first? write down whatever comes, Try this little exercise and brain storm what ever comes to mind onto a piece of paper starting with the intent to describe what your dream is about, it does not matter whether it is 'right' or 'wrong' or trail off into thinking about your days events and then some memory of a film you watched 8 years ago comes up and then an argument you had with a friend 12 yrs ago comes up just keep writing what ever comes to mind, the idea is that when you start writing, write what images memories come up, if you come across a train of thought that you dont want to follow, then notice this and continue notice your resistance, these are the first steps into understanding more about yourself and what lies beneath the surface in the way of thoughts feelings and memories write about all that seems irrellevant and even unimportant ie im hungry, this is boring, im not getting anything from this, write every thought, memory and image that comes to mind this exercise serves to take us into the dream consciousness or unconsciousness in a way that we are still awake/aware and much insight can then be gained.

Ive spent literally hours doing this in any one go, it is always best to set yourself a target like to write at least 3 pages of a4 before stopping to pause, and just writing whatever comes to mind.

Then when some of the guys here look at your dream, and you having delved into your unconscious self through writing, certain pointers given will be likely to elicit insights into you own dream in a very profound way.

Good luck Marce

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Hi, Posh:

I'd rather see your understanding be "gently" assisted. So, I will say only a few words, for now.

It is okay that you do not "get it," right now. There is no hurry, no race. Rest comfortably and trust your self: trust that your dreams are presenting wonderfully helpful information, for they are.

Your courage is amazing!

Warmest,
Embrace

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Posh,

I wanted to let you know that I would have liked to share more with you this evening, but given the already "too much" input you've been given, I thought it best to wait.

I am glad you spoke up about that earlier. It was wise of you to do so. You have the right to say when something is not helpful.

Don't fret that you feel you cannot now offer another an interpretation for their dream. There is no requirement for that, here. And the day will come when you will be able to do so.

Be patient - and most importantly, be gentle with yourself. Unwrapping these things take time.

If you'd like to write me privately, I invite you to do so - but only if it feels right "for you."

kristi_parrotte@msn.com

Embrace

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