I woke this morning with a strange but beautiful new feeling. I am not sure If it had just happened before I awoke or earlier in the night because it did not feel as though there was any time involved or that it felt like i was trying to remember a dream. I became aware that i was standing at the side of my bed everything was clear and bright just like it is when i am awake. i looked down and seen myself. I was very clear except when i looked at my face it was slightly fuzzy and my eyes were closed. i had a very peaceful feeling no fear. i then watched as my husband and i engaged in intimacy. It wasnt dirty and it didnt feel like sexual desires in fact i never felt any sexual connection at all with what i was watching only that i thought it was beautiful. when I opened my eyes it was like i had not been asleep. I am hoping maybe you can give me more insight ty!!

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Have you been engaged in an inner search recently? Or looked at your life and given thought to how you feel about it? In this dream the bed would represent your unconscious self and the intimate relationship you have with your whole being as well as relationships {beds often symbolize intimacy}. Although there are aspects about your waking life that are not so clear, about your persona, you do not have deep emotional issues {unconscious}that tend to disrupt your waking life. The dream would see clearly and those unconscious aspects that are not as balanced as they should be would be what the fuzzy face is about. But they do seem minor overall.

The intimacy you have with your husband may have to do with that relationship but my sense is it has as much to do with yourself. The dream seems to be pointing to aspects about yourself {face/persona} that are not clearly defined but overall you have a sense of security about yourself and your life. There may be some negative aspects to the intimacy in your life {sexual} but that does not distract from the overall relationship with your husband. You are satisfied with your relationship with your husband as well as your own masculine self {your animus}. Such a dream does suggest there has been some type of inner examination. Did you have a good childhood? A very positive dream {most are focused on deeper emotional conflicts}

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Thank you so much for getting back to me. The fact that you were able to pick up on the inner search is remarkable which tells me you have either been there or are there so thank you for that! upon further examination i believe that my subconscious was showing me the relationship between my masculine and my feminine sides and when the two join together how beautiful it can be. but this is my personal take on it which echos what you said. As far as my personality I feel as though I am somewhat of a mess or a puzzle. In other words i am on a inner quest to fix the pieces of me that were broken. I am trying to understand the deeper reason for why I do things why i act the way i do ect. Basically in a nutshell I am trying to break through my ego into my sub. so that I can truly become what we were all meant to be. I feel that when we change how we think what we feel when we become more in tuned with our selves we then become more in tuned with our world and the inside changes are reflected in our outside world. Sorry to get so off track i am hoping that if i can explain to you what I am feeling right now you would get a better idea of my personality. lol As far as my relationship with my husband i feel as though i have a solid connection to him maybe because of my connection to my masculine side. although at times it does seem as though the communication is lacking mainly because our thoughts process so much differently. As for my childhood i could lie and say it was happy but it was not. that being said i do not have any ill feelings about my childhood or my family as i am making peace with myself about it. All experiences I feel are essential for learning I mean isnt that why were here in the first place. thank you so much for your time i do hope i hear from ya again!! I hope this better helps you understand again ty for taking time out to help me.

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oh and what is your take on lucid dreaming i would love to hear your opinion ty!

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Rebecca,
About lucid dreaming. I am evolving on this topic but believe we need to be careful in utilizing this method of 'controlled' dreaming. Dreams are therapeutic by nature {just as the body has the immune system to help resolve physical issues the psyche/mind has the dream to help resolve emotional issues} and when we disrupt the natural cycle of the dream we can take away from its therapeutic affects. If lucid dreaming is used purely for the 'fun of it' {controlling the dream does tend to be fun} then whatever the message of the dream can be diluted and even dismantled. We must learn to listen to our dreams so to understand the unconscious and underlying causes for out actions, attitudes and emotional conflicts. The intent of the dream is to help resolve emotional conflicts and if we spend our sleeping hours {REM sleep} 'playing' we tempt the mind to negate the time needed for the dream to finish its 'communication'. Flying all night may be fun while it lasts but the lasting affect of the dream message of 'flying too high' in life can be lost.

On the other hand if we use lucid dreaming constructively they can be valuable tools in helping the emotional issues. If say the dream has imagery that has a message but the message is unclear, the ability to ask questions can help clarify the message. Controlling the dream in this manner is contributing to resolving the issues the dream is trying to communicate. Dreams are a dialog between the unconscious and conscious mind. Being in partial control of the dream can be beneficial. Being in total control may lead to 'abuse'.

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yes i completely agree with your take on lucid dreaming it is also my understanding that being lucid can indeed help us make better sense of our dreams but that taking control of our dreams may keep us from fully understanding them. thank you for your insight!

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Rebecca,
I appreciate the sincere response. Spelling out what you are trying to do is what I wish more people would do. Most do not have an awareness you do about their inner world. AWARENESS is central to finding balance and wholeness in life, awareness in all aspects of life, inner and outer.

As for the self discovery you seek. I suggest you begin with your childhood and determine what experiences/influences during those early years took hold and in the present have an unconscious control over your life {or at least partial control}. It was not until I began my journey to wholeness {22 years ago} that I began to understand the influences of my childhood had a 'unconscious gripe' on my conscious life. I was acting out in my waking life what was unfilled from my childhood. Although there is more to it {weakness of character, submitting to a natural libido, etc.} it was the unconscious motivations that were in control of the my vital instincts. My issues were a common theme in life {and mythology}. Looking for love in all the wrong places as a young adult in an attempt to find the loving, caring father I never had as a child {this is one area where I tend to lend toward Freud, everything else is Jungian}. With the neuroscience discoveries being made we now understand how the mind of an infant {through early childhood years} has a capacity and instinctive drive to pick up on the experiences/influences of the environment around them. These become the building blocks, the foundations for personality and structure in life for the future. They are 'embedded' within the psyche and although consciously we are not aware of them, unconsciously they are life underground roots that feed the whole self. Understanding these unconscious processes let's us understand why we are who we are as adults and knowing what they are let's us resolve the issues that brought about the emotional conflicts. I discovered and disarmed my demons by using Jung's Individuation Process. The balance of masculine/feminine qualities is an intricate part of that process.

By the way. A good example of my journey of 'son seeking father' is in Star Wars where Luke Skywalker seeks his father and encounters the dark forces that are associated with the hero journey. Anyone who seeks wholeness through reconciliation of the emotional forces within, and lives a spiritual life {in accord with nature} is a hero/heroine. This is what mythology is all about and why dreams and myth share the same archetypal images.

Jerry

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No Thank You!! thank you for being able to hear me and empathize with me that is an incredible talent that not enough people tap into. my personal journey also started with healing the emotional problems that were imbedded into me as a child. Although I was not aware I was on a journey until a couple of years ago it seems my sub. has always known that I was. I like to compare my journey to a spiral. If you were to look at a spiral and follow it down to the center you would come to realize that you loop around over and over again only every time you loop you get just a little further down into the spiral. That is my life, my journey. Seeing the same scenes but hearing a new deeper story every time I see it. So again thank you for being open honest and able to connect with me. I can't wait to email you again with some wonderful new imagery that we can discuss to see the deeper meaning! On that note I did want to say that I became aware of another meaning that my dream might have been trying to say: I have been struggling to see myself as something worthy and beautiful I believe that my eyes being closed may have been symbolizing my failure to see the true beauty of my nature (of our nature as a whole) and the feeling that I had of just pure beauty was a signal that I was ready to see myself in a new light. not damaged and broken but full and beautiful. Even the broken pieces of me are parts of me. They are parts that make up the whole. therefore the only conclusion i can make is that I was never broken only that I perceived that I was.

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