Inanna,
Oh, what a web we weave! Although you trust your ex you have problems with your daughter being with him when his 'new love' is there. The central theme of the dream was focused on your ex and your daughter with no direct mention of the 'other woman'. But the 'huge black spider' is most likely her, that thing you are afraid of {her and spiders}. So it all does fit together.

As for her hacking into your computer. A possibility but either she would have to be a real 'nerd' with computers or hire someone to do it for her, either of which would be breaking the law. The senses you may have of 'her' breaking into your computer may be the fear of her 'breaking into your life' and having a negative influence on your daughter. Unless you can find evidence of computer hacking I would look to the later as the sense you feel. Remember, it is by being objective that you discover truths and not by letting the emotions control you. You overcame the 'strong' emotions when your ex went to another woman so you have that ability so continue use that great asset.

As for the condition of your life at the present time. You have come a long way and with all that has come at you, well it does take a strong will to combat the emotions you have had to deal with. Stay strong and focused on raising your children. Perhaps it would be a good thing to introduce them to Pippi Longstocking {if you yet to do so}. That is something the three of you can share and it can be a great tool for them to learn about strength and perseverance. Just as it has helped you.

Jerry

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Hi again,

I sure hope you are right, and you most likely are. Of course the fear of her breaking into my life may lead me to the fear of her hacking my computer. It is really almost the same thing. I spend much of my time in the evenings, chatting with friends now, since I can´t get out much. So the computer represents my life in many ways. It is my private sphere. The idea of her being an influence on my daughter haunts me, but in some way I keep those thoughts at a distance.. Maybe I repress them and they surface from another angle? The idea of her sneaking in and me not being able to catch her.
Even though I have these frightening thoughts every once in a while, I feel very safe, and the way things are moving forward makes me feel like I´m on the right path, and that I´m being "looked after".
So many things in my life tells me that everything that happened was clearig the way for good things to come. And now the challenge is to make the best out of the situation for the girls.

My eldest daughter has been a fan of Pippi since she was just one year old.. watching the films, not understanding a word, but still totally captivated! And she still loves watching Pippi. I´ll of course introduce the little one to her too when she´s a bit older!

Thank you for your thoughts

Inanna

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Inanna,
Those deepest fears are what are often the focus of our dreams. And your 'life being the time with your computer' is most likely the stimulus of the fear of her hacking into your computer, and thus your life. The good news is you have moved forward.

Pippi has become a family event. And a wonderful tool for the psyche. Just as with mythology the youngest psyche can be 'caught' by such tales as with Pippi because they strike an inner cord. To be able to see it on a screen, that is even better. Raising your children with those wonderful stories from your childhood can only be a positive in their lives. The experiences from your childhood can be a tool for raising your children and to have a such a wonderful guide in doing that, well that is special.

Jerry

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