Beba,
The house in the dream is you and the room is one particular aspect of your life which is dim {likely has to do with father issues}. Unconsciously those issues probably weight more on you than you realize {the 'living' room and how the lights are}. The door is an opening to understanding these 'emotional issues' related to 'dads' {real dad and your hero dad}. The embrace is what you seek and need to feel secure {something you lack from your real dad and unconsciously if not consciously wish for in life}. Tears are symbols for emotional healing {letting the emotions out so to help heal}. Frank letting would be an ability to not let the father issues bother you consciously. But there are unconscious aspects that still need healing, you and your real father being so far apart. Overall I sense the dream is addressing the unconscious issues but the important statement it seems to be making is you are consciously handling it well. Later in life there may be issues from the relationship but now you are handling it well {the dreams you have today reflect your true emotional self at the time you have the dream}.

There is likely another aspect to the dream {all dreams have more than one meaning}. The reason I say this is two fold. One is because you mentioned the crush on a guy at school and the second is there may be tendencies to give in to experiences where crushes make you feel important when in fact it would be a mistake to give in to them. In other words, your low self esteem [due to family life and the environment you grew up with} and a need for a masculine entity in your life may unconsciously persuade you to give into guys you have a crush on without giving real thought to the consequences. Your hero Frank Iero is actually a crush even though you look at him as a role model because he is a 'good dad'. I dare say you would 'give in' to him in a heartbeat if you were ever to meet him.

That being said, any child who grows up without a close relationship with either parent is 'injured' psychologically. Although you are handling the situation with your dad well now {and consciously may do so in the future}, unconsciously there will likely be consequences from it {low self esteem suggests it already has had an effect}. You will need to be aware of these unconscious drives because they can and will make you do things that you later will regret {if not soon after then later in life}. I say this from personal experience, both working with people who have been in that position as well as my own experience of being there. My father left when I was 5 and we never had a relationship. In my early adulthood {looking back and now being able to see it} it made me do things I likely would not have done if I had had a good relationship with my father. Early life experiences/influences leave unconscious imprints on the psyche/brain that in late life resurface as actions related to those early life events.

One last comment about why you are not having a lot of problems with the father issue. You have found a replacement, your indulging yourself into music. Creativity is therapy and when you give free reign to the 'muse' you enter into a different world within yourself. Frank Iero has done that and is an inspiration. Perhaps you have a real talent for music and should follow it. If it helps you get through the day then it must have some great power. Creativity is the source that gives meaning to life. Believe in it, live it and it could become your life and inspiration for living.

But don't forget my warning about the father issues and 'giving in'. Those unconscious drives could ruin everything for you, even your inspiration for music.

Jerry

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